here we go im only 17 and my boyfriend is 19 and we have been on and off for 4 years and he used to sell weed but he changed hisd ways ever scenc he got on a year probation but every time my aunt or my sister here his name or when he calls they dont wont to talk to me any more for what reason why ? casuse someone sniched on him, in school last year but eveyone loves his twin to death do you think i barked up the wrong tree or something cause i dont know at all he treats me like im a prencess or his queen we are suppose to get merried on christmas in 08 i mean am i doing the wrong thing to hurt my family i mean me family is not even close so do yall think i shuld go my own way with my life? HELP!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-28 08:16:17 · 13 answers · asked by MaShelda B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
lay off the weed and stay in school.
2007-03-28 08:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago did he change his ways? 3 months? 3 years?
When you get married it really helps to have the support of your family. Sometimes that support is emotional, sometimes they help you with things you need to do or with money.
We've helped our kids with helping clean their apartment when they moved, helped them go places, fixed their car, got them food when they were sick. We aren't wealthy by any means, but there are many times families help each other.
If you get married young you're even more likely to need their help in many ways. If your young man loves you he will want to be part of your family, too, not want to antagonize them for nothing. He should let them see how he's changed, and what a responsible guy he is now. It might even take longer than until next Christmas
2007-03-28 08:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly , sweetie Your family, even though they might not be close right now, you should try your best to make that happen, forget about that guy for now, go to school and find what your passions are and make sure to include the family who cares about you so much. Finding a good woman or man is not as hard as people think as long as you are happy with yourself and your life situation.
Good luck
2007-03-28 08:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question is, do you love him? Not that puppy love, I mean do you got mad love for him? You should what your hearts tells you. Your family cares a lot about you and don't want you to get hurt. Do you want to marry him because you love him or because a small or maybe a big part of you wants to get back at your family for not liking him? You should talk to him and find out if really loves you. As for your family, tell them what you feel in your heart.
2007-03-28 08:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by gunitgirl1608 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One, boyfriend is already a looser. He wasn't just in possession he was SELLING weed. What are his plans after probation?
Two, he treats you like a princess because he wants something you have -- unless you've already made THAT mistake.
That brings us full swing into ...
Three, you're underage, he's 19 ... you're jail bait to him ... statutory rape.
Four, YES, get on with your life without the jerk.
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2007-03-28 08:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Icteridae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd go with my opinion, but I know you probably don't want to choose him over your family, and if you decided to have kids, you want your parents to be a part of your lives. I think you should slow down a little while you try and get closer with your family. Talk to them and tell them how you feel about this boy. Persuade them into letting him come over for dinner or something so they can get to know each other, and hopefully they can accept him.
Good luck.
2007-03-28 08:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Families are just like that. They think they are doing what is best for you but only you can make that call. If he treats you good and you are not upset about what he did or is doing then you should make that decision. You're family will eventually accept him and realize that he makes you happy. And if not then I wouldn't worry about it. If there is one thing I have learned is that NO ONE else can make me happy except me and I CAN'T make everyone else happy. As long as I am happy I don't care what anyone else says. You have to live with your decision that's why it's yours to make. Listen to you heart and how you truly feel about this guy...lay aside everyone elses feelings. People (your family) need to remember back to when they were your age...did they make mistakes? Did they learn from them? Good luck to you honey.
2007-03-28 08:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's very easy to dissapoint those near to you, they only wants the best for you. i know it's hard to see others point of view. only good communication can solve that one.sometimes the opinion of a third party can be very useful sometimes hard to accept. you know those on the side line is the best referee. at the age of eighteen it's far to young to get married. i believe one should enjoy your youth. believe me you'll regret it when you much older. get some new friend. maybe new b/friend. live life girl you only have one.
2007-03-28 08:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by bern g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never-mind your boyfriend problems...spelling should be a greater concern in your life right now as a 17 year old
2007-03-28 08:21:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is very important in life. Especially if you get married and have children. The kids will need their grandparents in their life. Do what is right by the words of the Bible.
2007-03-28 08:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Bill M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, apparently your parents don't like your boyfriend. They don't want you to stay with him, most likely because of his past actions. (the weed). So you have to show your parents he has changed (if he really has) show him what great guy he is to you. If that doesn't work, you have to decide....your boyfriend, or your family.......
2007-03-28 08:21:21 · answer #11 · answered by sweet_n_sexii94 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋