Should I go to college?

Question

My Family thinks it's very important for me to go to college. But i'm not really interested in any type of "career" that i could have with a college degree. I love my boyfriend.. I want to get married eventually and have a family... And be a stay at home mom... annnd make music. Is that so bad? How important is college? Is it worth all that money and time and suffering just for a "good" job? If i Should go to college what the heck should i go for?

Answer 1

Your situation sounds somewhat similar to my own. I've never really had any big career goals - to me, a job is just a way to make money. At the end of high school, I had a boyfriend who I knew I would eventually marry.

However, I went to school and got my degree. Why? Because I know too many women didn't go to college, and immediately got married and became mothers, then because of various reasons, they didn't have a husband anymore to rely on to provide for them and their children...so they had to really struggle to make ends meet to support themselves and their children.

I vowed to myself that I would never be in that position, that I would always have the ability to go get a job and be able to support myself and any future children, no matter what. I never thought that my boyfriend/fiance and I would ever break up or get a divorce, or (heaven forbid) die, or anything like that, but I know that I cannot predict the future and need to be prepared for anything.

Now, I have graduated with my degree, and am engaged to my high school sweetheart. He has an excellent job, and provides for me right now. I do plan on getting a job in the near future so we can save up money so we can buy a house, etc. Again, I don't really have any career goals, just to do whatever job I have well and to the best of my ability and to make money of course.

I really think that you should go to college. You said that you want to make music? Then go to college and get a degree in some sort of musical area, like music theory or education or whatever. Or if not that, then something else you will enjoy. There are lots of things to pick from. I thought college was so much better than high school, because you had a say in choosing what things you want to learn about.

Don't think of it as time and money and hard work that you will be wasting because you aren't interested in a career, think of it as an investment in your future and in your future children's futures.

Good luck! :)

Answer 2

Almost every important decision an adult makes should take into consideration the well being of their family. Would your husband (to be) value you more as a life partner if you graduate from college? Would your children benefit if you are well educated? If some tragedy occurred and you became the sole support of your children, would a college education enable you to better provide for them?

There are many other such questions to consider. If you try to see your future through the eyes of your future husband and children, I think you will arrive at the right answer.

Even if you look at the question only from a perspective of self-interest, I think that the person you will be at 30 or 40 would be much happier and more secure if you had gone to college and obtained a degree.

Many women return to school in their 30s and 40's, and most of them would tell you that it would have been a lot easier to do at 18 without the responsibilities of a family than later in life with all the responsibilities that go with children. It is also sad to say, but I believe the current statistics show than one out of every two marriages ends in divorce. Wouldn't it be more prudent to prepare for the possibility than to discover yourself in a difficult situation in the future with few options?

The more education you have when you are young, the more choices you will have for the rest of your life.

Answer 3

College was one of the best times of my life. Not only did I get a degree but it shaped who I am today. If school is not your thing then maybe you should consider a trade school like cosmotology or computers. The fact is it is very difficult to have a good job without having some type of higher education. You are still very young and you can't bank on your boyfriend always being there. As you get older you will value your independence and your self-sufficiency so much more. Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes, you should go to college. Some might say that college degree really doesnt mean anything now a days but it does. exspecially for women. What if something happens between your boyfriend and you and you have no education.... what are you going to do to support yourself and do you really want to live off of someone else for the rest of your life? You dont have to declair a major right away. take some classes and find out what really interests you. Any college is fun and goes by way to fast, you will regret rushing into the real world. Slow down and have fun!

Answer 5

I'm with your parents with collage education, because even if you want yo stay at home and have a family your degree will always be there for you to fall back on, you never know what can happen in the future, i wish you luck you and your boyfriend but what happens if he is not able to support you in the future or what he makes isn't enough? plus you'll be setting a good role model for your children.and when it comes to what to major in you can explore go to any locale collage there always having job fairs, and career fairs you can also tale a couple of courses and see what your interested in.I THINK THAT A DEGREE IS EXTRA IMPORTANT FOR AA WOMEN BECAUSE A MAN CAN ALWAYS FIND A JOB IN CONSTRUCTION OR LABOR WORK IF HE DOSE NT HAVE A DEGREE.

Answer 6

College is important for stay at home mom's who's husbands have degrees.

You've gotta keep up the education level in the home, help the kids with their homework, etc. And also, you'll need to be able to have intelligent conversations with your husband.

You can study music as a subject (I've mentioned Naval academy to someone else).

Don't go for a good job. Go for an education.

Answer 7

You could always go and get a liberal arts degree, or a music degree if you want to make music.
And what's the big deal? It's a great experience, even outside the classroom. You could at least give it a try.