I've encountered A LOT of women on the Internet (here, dating sites, etc) who are divorced, and usually, their "ex" is a LOW DOWN GOOD FOR NOTHING CHEATER! Which really sucks! I have NEVER been that way, will NEVER be that way! (I'm divorced, and will one day be remarried when I find the right Lady!). Soooo.......that is something that I just DON'T comprehend as a "one woman man" who stays FAITHFUL! What I want to know is: WHY do they do that? HOW can this guy who told you he'd "LOVE you for ever" then go and BETRAY you like that??? And what would you say to women who are planning on getting married for the first time? (My heart goes out to each one of you! May God HEAL you and let you know in a BIG way that HE will never "cheat"!)
2007-03-28 08:10:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, my Ex did commit adultery, as it turns out many times over many years. Why did he do it? I believe it was about being selfish and deluding himself that it wouldn't hurt our marriage. To a women getting married, I would tell them not to marry a man that is too immature, and to make sure that they do not rush into anything. Take the time to really get to know this person!
2007-03-28 08:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a huge question! There are a lot of variables involved here, and a lot of reasons men cheat. I wouldn't be so quick to judge if I were you, although I commend the strength of your resolve.
Here are some of the reasons:
1. Needs are not being met at home. (physically or emotionally)
2. The man is a hot commodity and has lots of really sexy females determined to break into the relationship to get their piece of him and destroy the relationship in order to start their own with him.
3. The man is lacking in confidence, self esteem, or confidence and needs to know that he's still "Got It", so to speak.
4. Revenge for some wrong he feels the spouse has done to him.
5 He has a sexual appetite for something the spouse may find degrading or disgusting so he seeks it elsewhere.
6. He believes it is the only power that he has in the relationship, and feels the need to express to the spouse that he has "other options."
7. Because he can.
You also used the words 'always' and 'never'. These are very strong final words. You could find yourself in any of these situations at any time. Never say never, it could set you up for the ultimate test of that resolve. GOOD LUCK!and I hope it never happens to you.
2007-03-28 16:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by SONG 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am married and have never cheated. but recently i feel strongly for another guy which i find it unbelievable. i just wanna say this and this may not sound very comforting at all to the people, either gender, who got cheated. a lot of the time, it's got nothing to do with the cheated. it's the problem of the cheater...usually personal, emotional and psychological. it's a way of running away from their problems. and the problem is not a short term one or something your spouse can work with you or support you with. life is not very fair sometimes...but just be head strong and that's my advice! ^_^
2007-03-28 15:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're asking the wrong gender. Ask the men! I'm divorced because of a lying, cheating, good for nothing! My ex was my best friend before anything and then we got together, 2 yrs later we married and it just went awry! He knows he's good looking and swore up and down that he could find "better". Guess what he's doing now...2 yrs later, calling me almost everyday, texting me, telling me how stupid he was and what a mistake he made and that I'm the best he's ever had...EVER!!! I'm happy without him. Sure we made a great looking couple but I need someone who is "better" ha ha ha! Karma is a b-i-t-c-h! Quote of the century!
2007-03-28 15:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by batchick5 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not divorced but a long term relationship ended badly due to a cheating ex and other crap he pulled. A woman getting married for the first time better do her homework on the guy and make sure she truly knows him before making the plunge. I am getting married after 4 years of dating my currently man, and 2 years living with him... I think dating long term and sampling the goods is a nice thing to do before a marriage!
2007-03-28 15:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I've been very fortunate. My ex husband did not cheat on me. Nor any other guy. If anything I cheated on them. Go figure! But if it counts for anything, I married young, he was older and abusive, so I was keeping guys at least and arms length away (emotionally.) Now have found a great guy and we're happy. There is hope for everyone! Good luck all!
2007-03-28 15:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by mnkystp28 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 10 years and have two children whom are the most important things in my life. My ex cheated - physically AND emotionally.
It took me a long time to come to the conclusion that what he felt he "needed", he lacked within himself. A woman will never make him happy; because he is not happy with himself. Cheating stems from lack of self-love and respect.....not to mention lack of respect for whoever else is involved.
Many lives are torn apart because a lot of humans are self-serving, self-loathing, and thrive on self-gratification.
2007-03-28 15:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kendra O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a lady but I'm no gentleman either but she committed adultery on me. So the ball bounces both ways....don't think woman are the only ones hurt.
2007-03-28 15:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by whaleaway 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes my ex husband cheated on me. And get this, he had the nerve to say that I was the one that was cheating! Go figure!
2007-03-28 15:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
MY EX HUSBAND CHEATED ON ME IN THE WORST WAY,WITH A FRIEND OF MINE, IN OUR HOME,IN OUR BED AND I CAUGHT THEM,BUT THROUGH THE GRACE OF GOD I'VE FOUND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE,MAY ALL WOMEN WHO HAVE A CHEATIN MAN MAY YOU ALL FIND THE HAPPINESS I'VE FOUND.
2007-03-28 17:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy d 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋