There must be something wrong with me because I have never had an orgasm except for when I give it to myself. No guy has ever done it for me, and I have no idea why. Its not like there bad in bed or anything, it just doesn't happen. It doesn't even feel good... please help!
2007-03-28 08:08:57 · 21 answers · asked by ~*lil jordy*~ 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Stimulate yourself before your man starts his thing. Start rubbing your clit and make sure your vagina is well lubricated with your juice. Then have your man go down on your p.ussy and continue licking your clit. You'll probably come before he puts his penis in you. If not, keep playing with yourself while he is having sex with you and you'll come when he does, hopefully.
2007-03-29 03:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman on top puts you in control and lets you press your clitoris against your guy's pubic bone as you thrust, so you can enjoy clitoral and vaginal pleasure at the same time. Or, have him manually stimulate you as you gyrate.
Another good position for clitoral stimulation is a variation on the missionary, known as CAT (Coital Alignment Technique): When he's on top, put your hands on his butt and pull him up, so the base of his penis is pressed against your clitoris. Then, instead of the usual in-and-out movement, try to get into a gentle rocking motion that emphasizes the pressure on your c-spot.
Relax
It is possible to try too hard. Focus on enjoying the process, not on whether or not you will have an orgasm.
Communicate
Communicate with your partner your preferences when it comes to sex. Your partner cannot read your mind.
Encourage
If you or your partner are doing something pleasurable, encourage your mate to continue.
Enjoy
Learn to enjoy and feel comfortable with your sexuality. Your current inability to have an orgasm is not a reflection of your femininity, your psychological or emotional health. Putting yourself down just makes it that much more difficult.
Fantasize
Some women have trouble concentrating during sex. If that is the case, you may wish to fantasize, i.e., thinking about something sexual may excite you and may reduce negative emotions. If you feel that you are very close to achieving an orgasm, alternate tightening and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles. This may sometimes trigger a real orgasm.
Arouse
For some couples, love making ends once the man ejaculates. Often, at this point the woman is very aroused. If this is the case, you might ask your partner to continue stimulating you with his hands or his mouth once he is finished. Some women feel uncomfortable doing this, thinking that this would be selfish or that their partner would be bored. In fact, your partner may enjoy giving you pleasure. Rather than being selfish, you are giving your partner the chance to please you.
2007-03-28 15:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by sugarsweeteegrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't really have an answer yet. But I CAN tell you you're not alone. Maybe there's something "wrong" with both of us but at least you're not a freak, 'cause no guy's ever given me one either. At least. Not anyone who was physically present. Um. Point being. Find someone you really really really want to be with, that'll make it feel a whole lot better by default. Preferably someone who will pay some attention to your pleasure too rather than just his own. But yeah. Really wanting the guy makes a big difference.
2007-03-28 15:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women generally do not have an orgasm during intercourse, but through the stimulation of the clitoris; Thats why u are probably able to give yourself orgasms...
A friction position may help you have an orgasm during intercourse. Get on top, for example, so the top of your clitoris is rubbing directly on your partner’s pubic bone. Or lay on your back with a pillow underneath your butt.
2007-03-28 15:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are putting too much pressure on yourself. The best advice I ever got about sex was to just close your eyes and relax. Enjoy the moment because if you are so concentrate on "getting there" you never will.
Also, know your body and don't be scared to tell your partner what you like.
Good luck and RELAX!
2007-03-28 16:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by Laura H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your clitoris just may not be close enough to your vaginal opening to be stimulated through straight intercourse. I have that issue too. I actually have to manually rub my clitoris while having sex. My hubby won't do it, but I can't have an orgasm otherwise. Luckily, he doesn't act like he thinks that's weird (he may think it, but has never said it). At first, I felt weird about it, but, hey,it feels great.
2007-03-28 15:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by claireag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to be more open to exploring different things in your sexual relationship. A huge percentage of woman don't have vaginal orgasms. Without going into too much detail, it would be beneficial to you and your partner to have an open mind.
2007-03-28 15:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by TmB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many women cannot achieve orgasm via sex. You may want to experiment with postion and possible use of devices to achieve your climax
(And a real man would not be afraid to have you use an item)
2007-03-28 15:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The majority of women orgasm thru direct contact to the clitoris only so you are quite normal, nothing is "wrong" with you. Some women are lucky enough to experience orgasm thru intercourse, but the majority do not.
2007-03-28 15:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let your man know you better. Talk with him, he might help you, let him explore your body and together you will have an orgasm. Good luck.
2007-03-28 16:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by katherine7star 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋