My son is only 17 month and they are giving her sole custody. Will she screw with my visitation? My attorney says that I will have says in medicial and schooling and sports. I love my son soooooooooooooo much and Im worried about her pushin me out his life.
2007-03-28 08:02:27 · 10 answers · asked by dirbe22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to do exactly as I say.
1.Get a notepad, nothing goes in there but your visitations
2.The calender make the days your to have him make note if she doesn't let you see him.
3. Buy a micro cassette player, tape your exchanges, or any conversation with her. go to radio shack and buy a device to record your phone calls their like $15.00 and plugs into your cassette player
4.KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT, don't threaten her tell her what your doing or your screwed.
5.Anytime he's sick make a note, or your denied visitation
6. This is not a quick fix, so settle in and let it play out
7. Make sure your support is current even though it's not the same and shouldn't effect the visitation.
8. Keep the receipts for everything you buy him
9. NEVER EVER NEVER EVER give her anything more than the child support, and pay that through the court and keep all those reciepts also. every 6 mos. get a record from child support, court house where ever, they do make mistakes
10. If your son needs something you buy it for him and again keep the reciept.
11.only if you seriouslly think he's abused should you hotline her. as it looks bad on you and against the law.
12.Get a coplete copy of your file from your atty. in case you need to go elsewhere and after about 7yrs. they destroy your records.
13. Know that decree inside and out, make sure your dates are right, be on time also
14. If you are having trouble have someone there to verify your on time and she didn't show up. or yells at you in front of your son.
Both my son's now live with me. You have to keep in mind she could be recording you also, wacth what you say and how you say it.
Hope this helps
2007-03-28 08:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will have no say in medical, schooling, etc. UNLESS you have joint legal custody. It’s possible she has sole physical custody and you both have joint legal custody. But if she has sole physical and legal custody, then she makes the decisions about medical, schooling, etc.
Even with sole custody, she can't 'screw' with your court ordered visitation (which I assume you have) UNLESS you did something along the lines of 'visitation when it's agreed upon/is convenient for...' which is NOT a smart thing to do, because she could baiscally claim it's never convenient and then you'd have to go back to court to change the terms. But surely your attorney made certain that the terms of the visitation (days and hours) were DETAILED in the papers.
2007-03-28 08:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know every state differs... but I think most states changed the terminology. Custody means sharing in decisions for the child. Example.. my ex husband and I have JOINT CUSTODY, meaning that we can both make decisions and get school progress reports, etc.
But I have PRIMARY PLACEMENT.. meaning the children live with me.. Wisconsin changed the terms used...
So in Wisconsin custody would be the term describing who makes decisions for the child and placement means that is where the child resides.
I would check the terms in on YOUR states child support website or consult an attorney.
2007-03-28 08:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by Steffi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's likely that she has sole PHYSICAL custody but you probably have joint legal custody. In which case, you two would share any decisions (medical, school, etc) related to your son. Your lawyer should help you to arrange a fair visitation schedule - her failure to follow through with these arrangements could jeapordize her status as sole physical custodian...good luck!
2007-03-28 08:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sole custody here means Physical custody. Where he will live. Once the visitation is granted and scheduled, she can be charged with contempt of court if she refuses to let you see him. You do have rights!
2007-03-28 08:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the custody agreement, there should be specific guidelines set out for your visitation rights. If the court order says that you are allowed to see your son every Saturday from 9am-6pm or whatever, then she has to abide by that. If you have a lawyer, why are you asking us and not him?
2007-03-28 08:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite common for mothers of infants to get soul custody of the child. Which is right. Because Mothers should not be separated from their child at any time when its an infant. Reason is it screws up the baby emotionally. It deprives it from bonding with the mom.
Can she push you out of its life? No! You will always have rights to your child as long as you don't sign those rights away. Good luck!
2007-03-28 08:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it means that he will live with her and u get him only on the days that ur allowed to and u will be invloved in his life dont give up hes ur son as well my mom has sole cusidity of me and im closer to my dad than my mom
2007-03-28 08:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by Cassie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the sole legal guardian. You have visitation rights but she has the sole right to have him live with her.
2007-03-28 08:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
on one can push you at of your sons life...BUT YOU. when its your time for visitation...SHOW UP. in between visits CALL AND CHECK UP ON HIM. when its your time with him...SPEND IT WITH HIM save dating for your free time.NEVER EVER PUT HIS MOTHER DOWN TO HIM no matter how upset with his mother you might be at the time. your son can grow up knowing he was wanted and is loved by the two most inportant people that will ever be in his life. i hope the very best for you and your son......................
2007-03-28 08:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋