birthday party? Her family is having a surprise birthday party for her and they have invited my son, which is her grandson, and me and my wife. I have been divorced from my ex for 8 years but still have interaction with her family from time to time. My ex won't even be there because she lives in another state and can't make it. My wife has met some of their family and they were very friendly toward her. So they called my son and invited him and then told him to tell us we were welcome to come as well. Do you think my wife should go or do you think it would be inappropriate?
2007-03-28 08:01:21 · 17 answers · asked by ca_oss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What an interesting question! I want to first off thank you for keeping your son's family "normal." He is lucky to have such mature adults as models. Having said that, what works in interpersonal relationships is what people are comfortable with. It seems like everyone concerned is comfortable with the situation. I assume that if your ex has a problem with it she will let you know, although as the child's mother you may feel she is due a courtesy call just to forestall any future problems for your son in this situation. Good for you!!
2007-03-28 08:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be totally appropriate for her to go, and should. Especially since there seems to be no bad blood between any involved. She's your wife, part of your family like your son. The link between your family and theirs lies with your son now, not your son and their daughter. But there is still a link. Even if the ex would be there I would take the wife. Enough time has passed for mature people to be past any bad blood
2007-03-28 15:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by aural_play 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they invited her it isn't inappropriate for her to go. If she is able to be friendly with your son's family your son will benefit. The break up of one marriage should not dictate who can be friends with whom for the rest of eternity. And as you are observing, the end of a marriage does not automatically eliminate all of the family ties that develop as a result of that marriage. Your son will be blessed if he can grow up in a family that behaves with civility and does not carry grudges.
2007-03-28 15:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lleh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is not good to have that kind of a relationship with your ex-in-laws. Your son should be the only one who goes. It is good that all are on friendly terms but don't let that go any further. It could get weird and your ex could be jealous and become angry. Don't ask for the drama that could come!!!
2007-03-28 15:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that it would be inappropriate at all. A little awkward maybe, but not inappropriate. It is, afterall, your son's grandmother's birthday party and I'm sure that it won't be a huge problem or even a problem at all.
2007-03-28 15:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider your ex's family as an extended part of your family and go to the B-Day party.
2007-03-28 15:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, the ex's family doesn't have a problem with it.
I think you might have a problem with it. Look within yourself and see why you may not want your wife to be there.
Good luck.
2007-03-28 15:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be appropriate for her to go. She was invited, and she is your family. Both families need to have a cordial relationship for the sake of your son.
2007-03-28 15:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone gets along adn your wife is comfortable, then yes she should go. I am sure your son would like the fact that his whole family can ge along adn be supportive of one another.
2007-03-28 15:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lovely Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go, your wife should go. Its important for them to see that you stand by your new wife, and they wouldnt of invited her if they were going to feel uncomfortable. They sound like they just want the best for your son.
If your wife feels uncomfortable about going, you should stay with her and just let your son go.
2007-03-28 15:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋