2007-03-28 08:00:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we do it because we think people are good looking and maybe hott instead of looking at what is one the inside. get to know the person before u date them its the only way that it will work
2007-03-28 08:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by Cassie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about others but yes trust is the basis of all relationships and I think it should be a given in the begining of any relationship to the other person. You should be able to feel that you can trust this othe person before getting into anything serious. You start something the person should have a clean slate with you until the mess it up.
But then of course, if you for instance found out that the person has cheated before and you still have a relationship and is unable to trust them based on their cheating history and its their fault. Its still not "rush", I'd say its not determining what is neccesary and unacceptable before stepping into the realm of a relationship with trust.
I hope I didnt confuse you.
2007-03-28 08:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by Pudge_Monsta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The human need for companionship often leads to irrational, or at least unwise, behavior. In my experience, the tendency for people to rush from one bad relationship into another often rests with mistaking passion for love. For some, the need to be in a relationship, ANY relationship, is so overpowering, they are even willing to tolerate/excuse bad behavior (abuse, violence, ridicule, etc.).
The key to your question is the word "rush." Slow down. Learn to enjoy the journey. Although your heart, eyes, and loins may attract you to someone. Don't mistake this attraction for love. Passion is instantaneous, but love must grow. Love with your heart, but commit with your mind.
A successful relationship must be based on that which endures (trust, common values, beliefs, morals, etc.). In any relationship, the flames of passion will wax and wane through the years, but the lifeblood of that relationship (trust and commitment) comes not from the heart, but from the mind.
Blessings and good luck!
2007-03-28 08:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by RS in DC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a excellant question because I've done that numerous times. I think that we are in the honeymoon stage in the beginning of a relationship and our endophines are raging and it honestly feels like we don't want the responsibilty of thinking about serious subjects like trust. After awhile into the relationship we find out things are not as we wanted and alot of times its trust and commitment. If our senses were open and not clouded we would see the person for who they really were. It does take time to build trust and trust a person.
2007-03-28 08:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by shawnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We generally don't simply rush in. We have a relationship where we discover things about one another, then judge if you can trust the person or not. When you gain somebody's trust, that is the point where it goes from "dating" to a serious relationship.
2007-03-28 08:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by Article 82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people do rush in but they never fully trust the person until they have more information. If rushing in without knowing the person were the norm, there would be more arranged marriages in this country.
2007-03-28 08:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people fall in lust. I learned from my parents 2 week courtship before marriage, and 18 years of abuse towards each other not to rush into anything. I've been living with my husband for 6 years, and dating him on and off for 13 (since high school). But I have had my moments of falling in lust.
2007-03-28 08:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by TmB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as a default, we trust almost instantly. We continue to trust until someone breaks that trust.
If you just met someone you are not suspicious of them right off the bat.. right? You do not get suspicious until they do something that makes you suspicious...
Most people believe in and trust everyone until they do something wrong... so it is a default...
Much easier than being skeptical of everyone until they prove themselves through actions... however that might be a smarter way to go about things... Because people can pretend to be someone else for long periods of time.. it boggles the mind...
2007-03-28 08:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Steffi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people are liveing there lives and everyone imagines that when they are older they will be happy and with that special person that they love and have a happy life... right? well they want to hurry up and be happy so they want to speed up the process by getting that special someone they imagin being happy for ever after with..
so basicly.. people are "in love" with the idea of being "in love" so they just sorta of say... hope this is the person and falls hard for them.. b4 they get a chance to realy trust them.. that why the devorce rate is so high.. we expect to only be happy with a family.. hope this helps your understanding.
2007-03-28 08:10:03 · answer #9 · answered by Dr.Icebreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones
2007-03-28 08:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lleh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the euphoria that one feels while under the influence of "falling in love."
If you really enjoy being with this person, then trust closely follow behind all the other aspects of the relationship.
2007-03-28 08:05:09 · answer #11 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋