I'm 23, is that too young to get married??

Question

My bf of two years and I are talking about getting married. He will make a great husband/father, there is no doubt about that. But I am 23. I know there are things that I want to do like travel and explore the world. Can I do that while married? I'm definately not into partying and stuff anymore, I had a pretty wild adolesence. But when I get married I want it to be a good decision, and one that lasts for all time. What are some good tale-tell signs that we are ready for this step??

Answer 1

I think that if you are ready and your partner is ready, you should get married. My husband and I were married at 19. I wouldnt trade it for the world. You can still take the trips you want and be married. If you love each other than go for it. But you will know when you are truly ready.

Answer 2

You say you want to travel and explore the world. Do you want to do that alone or with someone? If with someone, do you imagine yourself doing that with your bf?? If so, then marriage can definitely be considered. Do you have the finances right now to travel the world? If not, and you want to marry this man, remember that you will have a LIFETIME to travel the world, it's never too late for that- most people enjoy it more after their kids are grown and on their own then young people cuz you'll have a lot more to reflect on later in life. Good tell-tale signs include if you can see yourself growing old with him, if you relationship is EQUAL, you depend on him as much as he depends on you, if there is no jealousy in the relationship, and if neither of you expect any changes in the other. YOu have to be first and foremost friends with one another, and have respect for each other. You've heard the saying 'age is nothing but a number', and it holds most true in this circumstance. If you have found the one and only man for you, and he feels the same, and there is no urge to change eachother, and if your heart AND mind tell you to wed, then go for it. Just remember, marriage is not about the wedding or the ring, it is about a lifelong commitment, which should be filled with making happy memories, and dying with no regrets or sorrow. You say he will make a great husband, will you be his great wife? It's all about partnership, what's the point of life if you arenot happy. Best of luck to you sweetheart.

Answer 3

I got married at 21 after 2 1/2 years together. Actually, we got married while traveling around Alaska together. Now I'm 28 and divorced. We remained friends for a bit but have now gone our own way. What I have learned is that I didn't yet know what I entirely wanted or needed to do with my life. At that age we're still having vibrant dreams of what could be. I say travel, travel together or apart. The point is you need some more worldly experiences under you belt, so to speak. There is nothing wrong with sharing those experiences together, in fact I would encourage it! All I can say is it was VERY depressing to be divorced at such a young age. If it's meant to be, you'll end up in a stronger marriage if you do not rush it. In fact this is a MAJOR life decision and should be approached carefully together. Good Luck!

Answer 4

No, not too young to get married. Yes, you can still explore the world and travel while married. Marriages can work whether you get married 1 week after meeting or 20 years after knowing each other. Marriage is about your effort to make sure you stay in harmony with your commitment to love each other. Getting married doesn't mean you have to have kids immediately. My husband and I got together at 22 and are both turning 30 this year and still have no children but we've traveled, partied, started our own businesses, bought a house, have 2 gas guzzlers and so much more. Marriage is about the effort and the love has no bearing on whether or not life ends. It is the mark of a new life one that you'll have to remember is based on where both of you are in physical, spiritual and emotional planes and a commitment to help each other achieve the best and be the best and give the best.

Answer 5

Hi there! I am 24 and my partner of 8 years is 25. We are sort of the opposite to you really lol everyone around us is getting married and having babies! but not us!! My mum had me when she was 18 and by 26 she had 3 kids so for me it's not something I want to do for a while yet. However as I said everyone else seems to think we r are the right age.
What me and my partner decided was that if it feels right and its suits both of us in a few years we will go for it, but as it stand we have been engaged for the last 2 years so far lol Its just not been the right time financially or emotionally but we now feel more stable for waiting and talking about it.
At the end of the day it's what you want and not what everyone else wants. Yes I would say your young to be married! but I have friends who are young and married and have moved from New Zealend to the U.K and are happy to just travel and explore for a bit. If both of you feel ready and have similar ideas and ideals about what marriage and life should be then go for it. I would say get engaged first and give it a cooling off period for about a year and then if you still feel strongly about it then go for it although You are still both young and can indeed be together without getting married just yet. But if as you say you really feel you would like to then get engaged for sure! and see how it goes! :-) hope that helps! good luck xx

Answer 6

Im 19 and I got married in November and my husband is also 19 hes in the Airforce and I expected some things to be different, I mean I love him but immaturity is such an issue in our marriage, and the fact that he cannot come into reality about money, I mean I found out 2 days ago that he ordered songs on his ipod $50 each 11 times and we are broke once again because of his stupidity in which im so sick of. I mean there are a lot of things that im trying to get to change around here but it's very hard, but back to your question if things are looking up by the time im 23 that's when I plan to have my first baby. I'm married and im going to still finish college so I guess you can do all of the things that are your goals if you marry the right guy.

Answer 7

I am a seasoned traveller, too young at 23? no. One sign is you know that you don't want other person to share life with. After being with my husband [22 yrs now] on our 3'rd date--i knew it was him for sure, glad he felt the same way. It'sgreat that you want to travel --of course you can still travel- my favorite pastime.
I would wait to have children about 3 years from now, get married and just be lazy together-lol-sleep in on the weekend,
Travel, do whatever you both enjoy, you can still do whatever you like--We've been to many countries, you see moms and dads with small kids everywhere-- sitting in the Austrian alps in a restaurant, main thing is the little ones are well behaved, train them early to be happy and sweet.- w/love [and discipline when needed]. You'll be welcome in the '4 corners' of the earth. Most of all in our lives we put Jesus first.
My son grew up travelling, Alaska, Italy, Holland, you name it--it's amazing the people you meet. I think he's actually friendlier and more out-going because of it.

Answer 8

I am 23 years old, engaged to be married in a couple of months. We have 2 wonderful kids. Ages 5 and 1. My kids never held us back from doing anything. We traveled with the kids and without. Neither of us go out like that, but if my fiance wants to "hang with the boys" he goes. We may take turns watching the kids for one another when we want some "me" time. So no, you are not too young. We have 2 kids and we are still able to do it all. We both have good jobs and we are making it without a struggle.

*Good Luck*

Answer 9

If you believe that he is the person for you and I do mean you in every aspect of the word. Then age should not be a factor as to when you get married.

However if everytime your think of getting married and you feel that your age is standing in the way (you have not lived enough or there are things you want to do before marriage) I would suggest that you wait unitl you know within yourself marriage is what you want and wont spoil it by not being dedicated to it. For reguardless what society teaches about marriage being a thing of ease or tax write off. Think again there is more to it than just waking up together and seeing eachother and saying I Love You

Answer 10

If the person you want to marry supports and encourages you to fulfill your hopes and dreams and is capable and willing to adapt to all the changes you will go through, then you are ready.

It's the changes people go through and the inability to handle them that tear relationships apart. The person you marry will not be the same person in 10 years. If you are prepared to help them grow toward their passion instead of trying to rein them back to the person you married, you should be OK.

Remember:

An ideal marriage does NOT follow the equation:

1/2 + 1/2 = 1

It follows:

1 + 1 > 2

Answer 11

23 isn't too young, but I can't really say that there are any specific signs to let you know if he's the one or if this is the right time. Just follow your heart. In life, there are no guarantees. You can still travel once you get married, but remember too that once you're married, all decisions must be done as a team.