I'm 23, is that too young to get married??

Question

My bf of two years and I are talking about getting married. He will make a great husband/father, there is no doubt about that. But I am 23. I know there are things that I want to do like travel and explore the world. Can I do that while married? I'm definately not into partying and stuff anymore, I had a pretty wild adolesence. But when I get married I want it to be a good decision, and one that lasts for all time. What are some good tale-tell signs that we are ready for this step??

Answer 1

If your sure then it isnt to young.

And lots of couples travel for the first years of their marriage! Just talk about waiting a few years to have kids after marriage. You can still see the world with the man you love.

Answer 2

I just got married a month and a half after I turned 24. Sometimes it seems a bit surreal, but I don't think I am too young to be married. Just make sure you both are on the same page as far as what you want to do before you really get tied down (like by kids). Honestly, if you are going to travel, who will you be traveling with? Probably your boyfriend, right? The only way I would say you should probably wait is if you two want completely different things out of life, i.e. he doesn't like to travel. Most of all, when you are ready to be married, both your heart and your head will know that it is the right decision.

Answer 3

There is no correct age range in which to get married (although it's typically not a good idea to get married if you're not even 20 yet). There are two main causes for the increase in divorces today: one, people aren't taking the necessary time to really get to know the other person. They'll date for a few months, sometimes even less, and decide they want to get married. I think you should know the person you want to marry at least a year prior to marrying him/her and I also think it's smart to have lived with that person. The saying is true. You never truly know a person until you've lived with them. Two, married couples today aren't as willing to work through their problems. Many marriages end in a divorce over an issue that could've been fairly easily solved with good communication or marriage counseling. It takes work though, and many people either don't realize that or don't want to go through it. As far as exploring or traveling the world, you can do that while married, but only if your partner is interested in it as well. Discuss your desire to do this with him before you decide to get married. If he doesn't really want to, then you'd have a problem if you got married right now. Basically, consider how long and how well you know this guy, where the two of you are in your lives financially, and your plans for the future such as the travelling you want to do. Good luck!

Answer 4

you said you already lived the wild side. my wife was 21 when she and i got married two years back. women are more mature then men at that age. however yes it is young. getting out will be tough for instance traveling. unless you are living with some one. ask your self questions your career? can you afford rent? are you planning a baby? but one big hint you asking this question here shows you already have doubts to getting married at 23 when do you turn 24 can you wait a bit? i wish you the best of luck in this. if you need further help just email me as i have always been a very open and helpful person. but you have shown responsibility by asking this. take care and good luck and best wishes if you do get married. keep in mind there is no right or wrong age. you just know when the time is right, its a natural feeling.

Answer 5

I got married at 20, almost 21. My husband and I got engaged 3 months after we started dating, and got married a year and a half after that. You know when it's right, no one can tell you whether or not you are ready. You know your prospective husband and your relationship better than anyone, so if you're ready, go for it! You can absolutely fulfil your dreams of travel while you are married - take your spouse along if he wants to come along! Make it an experience you won't ever forget! Marriage is not a death sentence as some people think, your life will change, but it will change for the better! Good luck!

Answer 6

It depends upon your maturity and the real reason you want to get married, not how old you are. Why do you really want to get married? If it isn't for love, you will be in a world of hurt later on when your heart is broken.

I suggest that you find out what true love really is and isn't. Read in the Bible I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" where it says love is patient and kind and seeks not its own way at the expense of others. It isn't boastful or proud and always believes in the positive. This love is such that it will gladly give its own life to save the life of another. It says of faith, hope and love that the greatest is love. It is this kind of love that has kept my wife and I married for over 28 years. If you and your boyfriend don't have this kind of love, then you aren't in love but something else, like maybe lust. Lust will always fail you when someone prettier than you comes along, but true love never fails. If you don't have this kind of love, you can develop it, but it will take work on both your parts. If you can't commit to obtaining this love, then you shouldn't be getting married. One of the reasons the divorce rate is so high is because people get married for the wrong reasons. Make sure yours is the right reason before you step ahead or you will be dooming your relationship eventually to fail.

Answer 7

Well it sounds like you are ready to get married and no 23 is not to young. And to answer your traveling question, yes the two of you can travel all around the world together, you have a partner in everything that you do- good luck

Answer 8

The tell-all sign is that if you think you're too young, you probably are. Some people are ready at 23, others are not. You don't sound like you are. What's the rush?
Yes, of course you can still travel and see the World when you're married, lots of married people do that. but is your prospective husband ok with that? Because once you're married, his $ is yours, and your $ is his.

Answer 9

My husband and I got married when he was 20 and I was 19. We were living together before then, but I believe marriage brought our relationship even closer. Marriage has it's definite advantages, but sometimes there are going to be a lot of other, more important aspects that are going to prevent you from being entirely carefree. Like getting a house or having children. There is a book, you could probably buy it on half.com or amazon called "1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married" by Monica Mendez Leahy. It was really really helpful and covers all the bases from emotional intimacy to parents and in-laws. Check it out! Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 10

I got married when I was 22. At the time looking back I might of not been ready yet, but now I could not be happier. It sounds like you are already a very grown up person. Follow your heart, usually the best answer is the one that your give yourself.

Good luck, and I hope that when you do get married it is everything you expected and more.

Answer 11

If you have any doubts whatsoever then wait a little longer. I waited until I was 29 and I had some doubts and let my friends tell me I had cold feet and a year and a half later I'm getting divorced. We had been together for 2 years before we got married. Make sure you are 100% sure. You're still young, enjoy life.