For 3 years a man and i have seen each other around the city we are in and can't keep our eyes off each other. I am married but in a platonic relationship (my husband is open to me seeing others) although i havent before. This man happened to come into my work one day and we finally talked to each other. He gave me his number and asked me out. I waited a while to call him as i was unsure if i should finally cross the line of going outside my marriage. I told him that i was married and he admitted he was too. We decided out of curiousity after all these sightings of each other we had to meet just for coffee. Well.....we couldnt stop at the coffee and find ourselves completely unable to stay away from each other. and in fact we have not even been physically that intimate. We talk for hours. anyhow is it possible for 2 people to have both married the wrong ones and now met their sould mate?
2007-03-28 07:51:02 · 9 answers · asked by lisalisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Secondly, dont you think its better for the innocent spouses to be with someone who really does love them?
2007-03-28 07:55:24 · update #1
I personally only know of one couple in my circle of acquaintances who divorced their spouses for each other and had it work out well (for themselves, at least). All the others, ruined their original marriages and went on to divorce each other later. You are already starting a relationship involving basic dishonesty --- not good.
2007-03-28 07:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by 13th Floor 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure what you are asking, but the man that I am now married to and we started to see each other while we were both married to other people. Be careful a lot of people will judge you for doing this even though they have never been in your shoes so they do not know how your life is or has been and what led you to this new relationship.
I feel that the man I am currently with is my soul mate too, looking back we both should have gotten divorced when we stopped loving our spouses, this would have prevented a lot of heart ache to our spouses. Or if we would have left our spouses as soon as we realized that we loved someone else.
Good luck to you!
But yes it can work, depending on how you handle the situation
2007-03-28 15:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this sort of thing happend to me. The man I'm married (happily) to was married as was I when we first met. We were in love at "hello" We started seeing each other and actually left our spouses for one another. We still get the same excitment today when seeing each other and hanging out. He is my best friend and yes we've always believed Soul Mate. Have we had problems in our 8 years that made us question it? Yes, but we've got something our previous marriages did not have. We've got a knowing that we are a great team and our problems arise out of our ego and pride and when we submit to love over these problems situations become clear and we can have harmony again and it is better than it was before. So, can it work out, yes, but the same amount of effort it takes in one marriage is the same if not more in another marriage maybe just for different reasons.
2007-03-28 15:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term Soul Mate is over used. If you can't be happy with one person you should think twice about marrying. Marriage is almost laughable these days. Few realize there is a sacred thing about marriage. Given the due respect and time it takes to make a marriage work, it can be the most satisfying and wonderful thing to happen to a person. It is a diamond worth buffing and perfecting. All else is nothing.
2007-03-28 14:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Catie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel very sorry for your husband. It sounds like you have imposed this "open to seeing others" on him, or he simply doesn't care about you. It doesn't sound like you have much of a marriage.
Affairs fail practically all the time, because they are based on lying, lust, excitment of the forbidden etc. Marriages are based on honesty, trust, faithfulness etc. Notice there is NO crossover. The things that make affairs exciting rip the relationship apart as a marriage.
Stop this. Pay attention to your poor husband.
2007-03-28 15:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm would it have worked out? Not for the people that are getting cheated on.
2007-03-28 14:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Shootsscores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the third girl, I wouldn't bother, get a divorce now
2007-03-28 14:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you husband is open to you seeing others - why are you married at all? That doesn't make sense to me.
2007-03-28 14:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing good ever comes from cheating.
2007-03-28 14:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋