Hey, I was just wondering, I have been married 2 and a half years and still haven't recieved a wedding ring. I have brought it up and it is like it just doesn't register. I'm pregnant with his 2cnd kid, and feel its time to be appreciated. My dad gave me one shortly after we got married, and I suffering from postpardum depression threw it out the car window, shortly after realizing through therapy that my father had abused me.
What do you think my husbands psychology is in this situation?
Thanks
2007-03-28 07:44:16 · 16 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont think there is any psychology behind it - I think he's just cheap to be honest. Why dont you bring it up that you would like a ring from HIM. If it's important to you, he'll listen. And dont feel bad about wanting one. That's how it works - he proposes, you get a ring. It's how it's been done for centuries. There is NOTHING wrong with wanting an outward symbol of his love and committment.
2007-03-28 07:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He probably thinks you're gonna throw it out of the car window next time you two have a fight...
If you're happily married - does it REALLY matter if you have a ring or not? And if your marriage is not happy - it is not because of the ring. If you guys make enough money, just go and buy yourself a ring if it's going to make you feel better. If you don't make enough - then you have to prioritize; when you have two kids, it's no wonder that the ring is no longer a priority for your husband. You can always get an inexpensive ring - a plain gold band; they're only $200-300; suggest this to your husband, I'm sure he will agree that it's affordable. I just wouldn't go into debt for a ring. Good luck.
2007-03-28 15:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make this more complex than it is. Your husband is cheap and doesn't want to spend the money on a wedding ring. Now that you've shown him that you'll throw it out of a car window if you get upset, he'll probably never buy you a ring ; so if you really want one, save up and buy it yourself.
2007-03-28 15:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you had a wedding ring before, granted provided by your father, and you threw it away, excusing this behavior by citing post-partum depression.
Perhaps your husband doesn't give you one because he observed how you treated the last ring.
Just because you don't have a ring doesn't mean your husband doesn't appreciate you.
Having a ring will not make your husband appreciate you any more.
Stop the drama. It stops when you want it to stop.
2007-03-28 15:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe hubby is worried the new ring'll be tossed out if you get mad at him for some reason??
Maybe his/your finances are tight and can't afford it??
Why does he have to be the one to buy the rings - can you not do this and present him with one??
Sounds like you're being a little selfish here.
2007-03-28 15:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the relationship of you father abusing you with your husband not giving you a wedding ring. Have him sit down with you and e-bay for rings for both of you or both of you get out and go buy them. Buy one for yourself and have him put it on your finger. Or add this to the list of things that are slowly drip drip dripping and eroding your marriage.
2007-03-28 14:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are simple, I do not think it is because he does not love you or anything deep like that.
I think that because you did not need one from him before the wedding.. he figures why waste the money now.
You already married him, why should he buy a ring now.. he got what he wanted without it....
2007-03-28 14:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by Steffi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, I don't have a woman's prospective. BUT a wedding band is not expensive! ! ! ! The engagement diamond is what cost the big bucks. SO why wont he buy you a wedding band???? They only cost $50 to $100?????
You think he could show you a little love and respect for that little amount?
2007-03-28 14:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sit him down and tell him that you would like a ring. Men are dense. Tell him that you want a ring NOW!
I'm sorry that men have treated you so badly. Make sure if you have sons that you teach them that women should be respected, really that all people should be respected.
2007-03-28 14:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why is it so important to have a wedding ring?
You already committed yourself to the guy with your heart. Married him, and now have 1.5 kids from him.
If having a ring is all that important to you, then go buy one. If he hasn't by now, he probably won't.
2007-03-28 14:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋