I am pregnant and even though I love my boyfriend very much, we don't live in the same state and I am thinking about staying where I am and raising the child by myself. Is this selfish of
me?
I wouldn't ask him for child support or anything and he can see his child whenever he wishes. He has children from a previous relationship and so do I, so neither of us want to leave where we're currently living. He is pressing me to leave my child with my ex and go there to live.
I know, I know...We should be more responsible, but we did use birth control (unfortunately people, it doesn't always work) So my question is what to do and why?
Oh and btw, I AM NOT getting an abortion, nor am I giving the baby up for adoption, so don't even mention it.
2007-03-28 07:36:45 · 10 answers · asked by blondeambition 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think situations happen and it our job as a mother to make the best of what we have for our kids.
I think you should allow the father to be as involved as he wants to be as it the baby who misses out if dad isnt on scene, our baby does not belong to us it is its own person and our job is to nurture and rear them the best we can into adulthood without letting our personal feelings get in the way. I dont think you should move or give your other kid up at all but encourage the father of the baby to be involved in the childs life. If he doesnt want to be then thats his loss and your concience is clear but whatever you decide good luck
2007-03-28 07:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by Angie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im soo glad abortion isnt an option and that adoption isnt either.. means your mature enough to take care of things that come your way and not run away... well, there isnt anyway he can make you move. He could move closer to you if he wants to be closer to this child but if neither of you want to move then that more than likley wont happen.
Tell him you just feel differently after time and since none of you are really considering about relocating that you think it should just end here. Tell him that its not an option for you to leave your child with your ex so tell him to get over that.
Tell him he can see baby whenever he wants.... the only thing that he could do is get court order for the baby to see him when it is older or some crap like that cause he is babys daddy and has that right. just becareful how you go about it and dont burn bridges with him so that he makes a decision like that!
2007-03-28 07:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by AC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two have decided that you guys will stay in separate states you now need to look at what would be best for the child. I was always taught that where there is a will there is a way. Maybe you two can consider joint custody. It sounds harsh but it does work for some family. It doesn't sound like you two want to separate but maybe you can compromise. How far apart do you two really stay from each other. Maybe there is town in the middle for you two to raise both your families. It Sounds like you want to still be with this man. How did you make your relationship work. Some how you were successfully with that. There are many options to look at. What ever you do don't do what best for you. No child wants to grow up with out there parent especially if there parent wants to be there.
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2007-03-28 07:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 children and raised 3 of them on my own until about 1 1/2 year ago its hard but can be done I would do what is more comfortable with you stay near your other children and raise your baby on your own you will not be keeping the child away from him so you are doing nothing wrong good luck
2007-03-28 07:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by serenitydaus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you still in a relationship with this guy??? If so how do you figure that is going to continue to work.... Eventually something is going to have to change either one of you moving or you splitting up.. how can you maintain a relationship while being apart?? If you aren't going to move that's fine just continue on the way you do he can't make you move...
2007-03-28 07:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by B-E-B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay where you are! The fact that he is asking you to leave your child to be with him is insane! Would he want you to treat his children like that? Rude!
2007-03-28 07:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by lisa t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you seem to habe your mindm ade up about not leaving, then jst relax! as u get bigger,he maly decode to comeur way but if he doesnt then oh well!
congrats on your bundleo f joy!
2007-03-28 07:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by somebodysmamasoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay where I was. I would ask him for support, b/c times are hard, and it will help out.
2007-03-28 07:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you NOT ask for child support? The CHILD is entited to be supported, that is not money for YOU it is money for the CHILD and you have no right to determine that your child is not entitled to it. THAT alone is exceptionally selfish of you. He sounds like a real loser if he is pressuring you to leave HIS child with YOUR ex for you to go running off with him and if you choose to go with him you are just as much a loser as he is. FILE FOR CHILD SUPPORT.
2007-03-28 07:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by LaPetite 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋
tell him to sign over his rights
2007-03-28 07:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋