They all have another best friends,so they talk to me just they need something.When i talk to boys,the talk is getting bored (because of me).What to do?I'm trying every day,but nothing.I don't have a friend to tell my secrets or to ask for advice.How not to be boring?Please help me.
2007-03-28 07:33:56 · 17 answers · asked by angee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to get out in the community. Its hard to make friends, but figure out what your interests are and then pursue them. Along the way, you'll meet people like yourself. Do you work? Perhaps a group of you can go out after work and that will spark up a friendship either in the group or at the location you visit
2007-03-28 07:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move to another circle of people they only talk to u when they need something they are users not worth having as friends first b yourself stop trying so hard u are a unique individual find folks interested in the same things u are biking swimming movies music books skating photography join a few clubs at school that u enjoy get a part time job after school theres a whole world out there for u to explore u will have more best friends than u can handle i lived this soi can tell u up front like urself b comfortable with who u are and u will b a magnet Good Luck God bless u!
2007-03-28 07:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest choosing the three best friends you have -- even if they're not great friendships at all right now -- and making sure you treat those friends right. Return their calls promptly, remember their birthdays, talk about what interests them and really add ot the discussion.
Don't ignore friends in unusual places. Maybe for a while you'll have friends who are older or younger than you. That's OK. Even your own family members or relatives might be friends to you for a while.
Another thing about friendship is not to be either too standoffish or too clingy. If you get too clingy, people naturally pull away. So allow your friends some space to keep your friendships healthy.
2007-03-28 07:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by Investor 2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe your just trying to find friends in the wrong places go somewhere you like to go and meet some people there because then at least you have one thing in common because your at the place at the same time but yeah im thinking you are trying to hard just wait you will get a friend know person can be that boring and if you are then give your life some spice like umm do somthing that you would never do and let it out and go crazy everyone once in a while then people will want to hang out with you because you are fun and crazy
2007-03-28 07:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by tropical_sweety2587 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being someone's best friend is not something that you should have to try to do. you can't just wake up one morning and pick a best friend. it's just something that happens when you have been Friends with someone for a while and you both have helped each other through tough times, or have had many experiences together that you have never shared with anyone else, and don't want to. a best friend is someone you can trust and someone you can go and confide in. you have to build a friendship, you can't just go out and make it happen. on the boring subject- find someone that has the same or similar interests as you, they won't find you boring.
2007-03-28 07:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by missi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be "unboring" in at least a couple of ways. For one, you can become the world's best listener. Ask questions, about anything, and just let people talk, talk, talk. Most folks love to discuss themselves. Another way is to stay current on things, movies, music, etc...get a hobby and get passionate about it, maybe. You'll find yourself surrounded by people with the same interests as you. Good luck, you sound like a nice person to me.
2007-03-28 07:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by geehaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello there, true friends take time. you can not just instantly have a true friend. if you just want to find someone to tell secrets to, that can't be anyone. a friend is a process. . you must get to know each other, and learn to trust and respect one another, these things take time. you may have many acquaintances which are friends as well. but to trust just any one you meet with your secrets, well, your secrets will not be secrets very long. be patient, I'm sure you will make many friends, but a best friend is some one you can share yourself with for a lifetime.
2007-03-28 07:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by dianesaunders2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you find someone who has the same interest as you. If you like to play basketball go to the gym and you will probably find a friend or two there when you play at open gym. Or if you like to ride bike find someone to go riding with. I am sure you can find someone with the same hobbies as you, maybe you are just looking in the wrong places. But then again who am I go give advice. lol
2007-03-28 07:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by gangstawannabe1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that your friends just don't have much in common with you. I had so many problems finding others like myself until MySpace came along now I have many close friends with the same interests.
2007-03-28 07:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by Fierce Lioness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have a bestfriend but not all the time i get to tell her things because we be to busy for one another but if you dont have nobody to talk to you can always make a diary an write your thoughts on paper or have someone in your family that you feel comfortable telling your business to.
2007-03-28 07:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by Angie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋