leaving my 4 month old with my mom?

Question

i am going to let my mom keep my son for like 4 days in may. she lives about 6 hours away from us and she never sees him. i trust her more than anything, but is my son going to think that i abandoned him? is he going to remember who i am after those 4 days? help please

Answer 1

He should be fine, but 4 days is kinda a long time. Why can't you stay with them? That way she can see the both of you. Even if your mom is the best, it's still a stranger to the baby, remember that.

Answer 2

Yes he'll be fine mothers have to do this all the time. My cousin just did it she had to go to a funeral for 5 days. She made sure he had everything he needed even brought the same sheets he sleeps on so he would have the same smells around him while in bed. You might try the same. It also helps if you send the same music or mobile sounds that the baby is used to. Good luck the baby will be fine. you on the other hand?? Moms always have an extremely hard time being away from their babys. Try to enjoy your free time.

Answer 3

I wouldn't worry too much. I have a four month old daughter and I know it's hard to say don't worry, but if you have to leave your baby, then the best place to leave him is with your own mother, right? I mean, she didn't do too bad a job on you!!! SHe'll probably spoil him rotten!

As people have said, though, it could be tough on your baby if your Mum is a stranger to him. Maybe you could stay with the two of them for a couple of nights before you leave them together? That would give him chance to get to know your Mum with you there as reassurance, and it'll also give you the chance to settle him into a new environment for a few days.

Also it'll give you the chance to tell your Mum how YOU do things with your baby...! Sometimes there can be babycare generation gaps!

Good luck though I wish you and your son well!

Answer 4

It depends on whether he sees your mother very often. We have a four month old and she only sees her grandparents once a month or so. She is scared of them at first. I would make sure that there is an adjustment period before you leave him. Don't just drop him off and speed away. Hang out for a while.

Also, make sure your mother knows about any special diets needs, diaper rash treatment, etc. It's probably been a while since she's had a baby to deal with.

Answer 5

Maybe you could get a fuzzy blanket to smell like you so that your mom can wrap him in it while she feeds him and he can sleep with it near enough he can smell it. It will be like a little bit of momma so he doesn't feel abandoned. Although I don't think he's going to feel abandoned anyways, at 4 months he won't remember the situation later in life.

Answer 6

Thats going to be very hard on both of you my son is also 4 months old and when I leave him with my mother in law he crys and reaches for me it kills me everytime He is having his first sleep over this friday night I cry when he is gone for more then a couple of hours my son is a mommy's boy he hates to be away from his momma

Answer 7

everyone will be fine. your mom will do things her way, but i would write down important things to help her, just in case.

-his feeding cues...things he does so you know he's hungry BEFORE he has a meltdown
-things that soothe him. like, does he have a blankie, or pacifier, or does changing his diaper put him in a good mood.

also, make sure you remind her of the safety stuff, back to sleep and all that stuff b/c a lot of that has changed since our moms were new moms!!

as for the baby...he'll be fine. he might get a bit cranky and fussy at first, but he'll be o.k. he will remember you. 4 days isn't so long for the babies to forget. now, 4 months..then sure, he won't have a clue who you are, but 4 days...you're fine!

take care:)

Answer 8

At 4 months became the 1st time I left my female descendant over nighttime with Grandma too. i became additionally very paranoid and nevertheless am approximately SIDS. yet once you think of roughly it, Grandma's love their grandchildren way better than you could think of & they are additionally very paranoid lol i presumed i became paranoid approximately Leah (my daughter) yet no way! my mom is plenty extra paranoid than i'm. as quickly as I picked her up the subsequent morning I asked my mom the way it went and she or he mentioned she could no longer sleep bc she became to irritating approximately Leah no longer being ok. She mentioned she might awaken almost each hour! thats loopy! lol purely think of roughly how plenty your mom loves your infant as much as you do and she or he would not enable something injury her purely such as you will not. do no longer undertaking. she would be waiting to be wonderful :) & no 4 months isn't to early to depart her over nighttime whilst that is with grandma. bypass out and have exciting! us mommies prefer an afternoon without work as quickly as in awhile!

Answer 9

He and you will be fine. He won't forget you! Your his mommy and you will always have that bond. It's nice that you have someone you trust with your baby. Especially your mom.
Just a suggestion, you should leave him with a shirt or something of yours that you have slept in. It will have your smell on it and it will comfort him alot while you are apart.

Answer 10

He will be just fine and will remember you when you pick him up.
Enjoy your freedom as im sure your mum will enjoy the time with her grandson.It is good to leave him from time to time as you never know when an emergency occurs and you have no choice but to leave him.At least he will be used to staying with someone else.