I KNOW I LOVE MY BF BUT I HAVE A GREAT DEAL FEELINGS FOR MY NOW EX-HUSBAND, THEY ARE BOTH TWO VERY DIFFERENT INDIVIDUALS BUT WITH GREAT QUALITIES .....I LOVE MY BF BUT I MISS MY EX SO MUCH!!!...
2007-03-28 07:27:41 · 19 answers · asked by nica mami74 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can love both but you can't have both..
Stop obsessing over the ex husband..
You will destroy your relationship with b/f..
2007-03-28 07:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible but painful for all people involved. I was married to my high school sweetheart many years ago. We were each others first love. He cheated on me and said he fell in love with another girl, but he never stopped loving me. It was so hard to leave someone you still loved as he would not get out of the triangle, he was so caught up in the drama. The other girl knew about me, and she did not care as she was open to see other people too, so it was only me that was getting hurt the most. You need to be alone and see who you really want to be with, chances are if the ex is the ex there must be many reasons, so don't chance loosing a new great person for something you know from your past that had already brought disappointment. Many people have great qualities, but true love and devotion is rare.
2007-03-28 15:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump your boyfriend and go back to your ex. I mean, there's most likely a REASON THAT HE"S YOUR EX, but by all means, do it. You have 3 choices the way I see it. You can continue screwing them, or screwing WITH them both, and evetually one of them will leave for lack of admiration or divided passion. OR, you can stay with your boyfriend and realize that he's either good enough to be with, not reallt great but you like him better than your ex, OR yuou decide that the ex should never have been an ex in the first place, try to make things work with him BETTER, and move along with your happy life. If you keep up this two-fer thing, you'll stress out yourself, both of them, lie to them both and make yourself less and less of a person everyday becuase you didnt have the guts to be completely honest with ANYBODY. Including and most importanty, yourself. But go ahead, do what you gotta do.
2007-03-28 14:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by B Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is most definitely possible to love 2 men at the same time, especially if they are so different. The reason we are attracted to them is because they each have qualities that we want in our partner. Usually, this is our intuition giving us signs of what we need to find to make a relationship work. Start figuring out what exactly you want in a partner and then you will know if either one of these men fits that description. If not, keep looking.
2007-03-28 14:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by Terri Klapperich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don' think it is possible to be in love with two people at the same time, it is to have a great deal of feelings for two people but what you have to try to decied is which person has what feelings. Think of the reasons that you and your ex broke up what made you unhappy with. You should really weigh both cons and pros to try to decied what is what and most importantly who is the person that would break your heart more if they were not in your life.
2007-03-28 14:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lori B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have said that you can't but you can. I love my ex as much as the day we er where together but i love my new bf too. Its different for each. It's ok to love more then one as long as your loving the ex more
2007-03-28 14:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont believe you can. if you have deep feelings for someone then you cant say u love your bf. if you do love your bf then the other deep feelings wouldnt be there. u can care for someone as a friend. but you are talking about your ex maybe you never got over him
2007-03-28 14:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by crazycase2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly. But you need to keep in mind of the reasons he is now your ex. Don't forget about the reasons you divorced him in the first place. You will probaly always love him, but that doesn't mean you should be with him.
2007-03-28 14:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! I totally believe it is possible to be in love with 2 people. It's likely though that only one of them is right for you. Sometimes you can be in love with someone and it just isn't meant to be.
2007-03-28 14:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by Fierce Lioness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu can love the memories, the past, and the relationship you had with the person, but I dont think you can actually LOVE two men at once.
JMO
2007-03-28 14:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋