Why do people say young teens know nothing about love and that it's "just a crush"?

Answer 1

It usually is but not always. I met my husband when I was 17. We've been together 4 years and still very much in love. My parents met when my mom was 15. They we married for 16 years. At the sime time I remember my crushes in middle school and early high school. I didn't feel as near as much love as I feel for my husband.

Answer 2

the simple fact young teen have no life experience just a lot of emotions. there's plenty distractions that can derail goals in your life look around an see how many adults are reaping the benefits of not knowing or understanding the circumstances love ,crush, or friends with benefits. Most adults have already been there done that. The things young teens are doing is nothing any thing new
Look pass your emotions make intelligent decisions, then you will not have to be worried about people criticizing what you know about love.

Answer 3

What I've learned just from gorwing up a little is that there is some truth to it. You look at love differently as you get older. And looking back, the love I felt when i was a teen was not half as intense or serious as the love I feel now (at 23). High school romances feel very important but they are mostly short lived. If you get caught up in that kind of thing too young, it couldhave serious consequences. I think adults say that to you maybe to keep things in perspective.

Answer 4

Many teens can and cant, depends on the person.
I have never had anything more than a crush and im 15. But.. people mature at different levels, alot of times it is "just a crush", or puppy love. Sometimes its not, it really depends on the person.
Also, teens have a lot of trouble figuring out their emotions.. i know i do.

Answer 5

I am not sure why i should answer, it will get thumbs down just beacause i wont tell you what you want to hear., but there is sooo much already going on for teens, your still not sure who you are, so how can you really love openly when you dont know who you are let alone someone else. and the odds are against you that it will last, hell 60% of even marriages end in divorce.

Answer 6

I honestly consider adults who say this as either protective or ignorant and there is a pretty thin line when it comes to it! A lot of adults justify this by saying "Oh when I was 17 I didnt know anything about love" well, that was when YOU were 17. I dont believe you can put an age limit on when someone is able to determine whether they love someone or not. If a newborn child can love its mother a 17 year old can definately be in love. My grandfather said he fell in love with my grandmother at age 13! 17 healthy children and 50 some odd years later they were still together! (They are now deceased)

If you feel like you are in love, embrace it. Just don't base decisions like having sex, or doing something illegal/stupid for or with this person. It may just turn out to be a crush and you would certainly BE crushed if you decided to lose your virgnity to someone and broke up with them a week later. (Protective advice) But to just tell you that you arent in love because the said person didnt know anything about love at your age is just ignorant.

Answer 7

It's just something to say because they're dismissing your feelings. You can be in love many times through out your life. Young and old. You can also have a crush at any age. Don't worry about what others say.

Answer 8

This may hurt a bit but the reason that people say its "just a crush" is because it is true. Young people do not have enough experience in life to actually know what love is. Adolescents are and need to be busy just discovering who they are and that takes time. Young people are finding out what lust feels like, what sexual feelings are like and love is much deeper than what these feelings are. Love is about true honest communication without jealousy and fear. To achieve this level of intimacy takes time, years in fact. Look around, most young marriages fail, well most fail, and that's because people out grow each other and forget to communicate. Just enjoy growing and being the best you can be

Answer 9

Most young teens have not had enough relationships to really "be" in love. There is no doubt that they can have some intense feelings for another person, but rarely is it truely "love". Many adults have not experienced it yet

Answer 10

Because young teens are beginning their adult phase of life, but are pretty much still in their child phase, and hormone-driven emotions run hard and fast.
Feelings are pretty much about how "I" feel rather than how I make someone else feel. Young teens can fall in and out of love four times a day, it seems, with wild results.