is that true... ?

Question

theres that psycologist that once told me that personnality started getting fixed at the end of teenage years.
im now 16 and im not confident and im moked at so does that means that if i stay like this till 18 will i spend the rest of my life being not confident and moked at

Answer 1

Yeah, after that point changing things will take considerable effort. More effort then doing it now, in your case, would...but it is not easy to change at any point in time, just harder later.

Answer 2

The teen years are rough for many people...it is a time when you are not really a child any longer but yet you are not an adult...you're kind of in a state of limbo........which can cause insecurities to crop up because you have more awareness of your surroundings and things going on than you previously had...you become more cautious, maybe more afraid of making mistakes and having people see these mistakes ........

as far as confidence goes... it is something that can be taken away or acquired..so , I am not sure it is a personality trait at all....since it isn't something that stays constant throughout ones life..... it is something that can only be gained by doing different things... the more you do the more your confidence will build...getting rid of the fear of making a mistake is something that some people have a hard time with...but it can be done...it just takes time and steps..the first step is always the hardest and with each new step it gets easier and easier........the worst thing you can do to yourself is to hole up and not try anything...the longer you do this the harder it will be to overcome your insecurities.......with knowledge and experiences your insecurities will slowly disappear.......so, no at sixteen your life is not "set" or "over with"..it is just beginning..you're not really even out of the starting gate..... so to speak......just try doing different things..a little along...you will probably be surprised at how well you can cope and adapt to these new experiences...and in no time your insecurities will slowly slip into the background instead of staring you in the face.........

now, for other people mocking you....you are surrounded by idiots ..who are probably more insecure about themselves than you are about yourself....their actions seems to indicate this..they are running you down so they will feel better about their miserable beings....which just makes them a ugly mean person for it.........I know it is hard..but you just have to ignore them ....they are not worth worrying over....the kids that done this in my school...when you see them today...it is laughable.... these people who tried to make others life h-ll seem to have ended up having a life of h-ll ...I guess you could call it karma....like the old saying "what goes around comes around"....it seems to have run these people over..many times over.... that is......

Try not to worry over much....you will do just fine....you have got your whole life ahead of you and nothing is set in stone...people throughout their lives continuously evolve as they go along........

Answer 3

No, you are not even old enough to know how you should feel.

You may not be confident because you feel you don't know enough. That's true. You need to learn and experience much more before you can feel confident that you can function well in this complex and multi-faceted society.

You may be mocked because you are immature for your young age.

Those problems should resolve themselves as you mature.

You can't give up before you know if you actually have a problem.

Answer 4

you sound like i did in high school, i would listen to professional opinions and apply them to my life as well. the truth about confidence and self esteem is that it comes from within, you will have to do some serious soul searching and it sounds like you already have, so you are on your way. What keeps a person confident is realizing in themself what they have been capable of that other people struggle with or facing things that scare you head on and realizing what your made of.

we struggle and overcome our whole life, even when you were a baby you had to get confidence to walk. its the same thing now. you have to believe in your self.

Answer 5

you are mocked, because your peers are teenagers as well.
when you turn 50 - your peers will be "over the hill" too, and well - 50 year olds just aren't that immature.

So if your true question here is wether or not you will be mocked for the rest of your life.......

NO. You will grow up, and so will they.