I am a 18 year old boy, who has never really dated in my life. I thought I was dating some one, but they went and had sex with some one else. I have never had sex, or any kindof oral, and I have only kissed once, for about 2 seconds. I do not know if I am coming off as non-dateable something. I try to keep in shape, I do not cuss(sp) and I am always there for my friends, but I have never dated. Whats wrong with me?
2007-03-28 07:06:50 · 18 answers · asked by Jon A 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Maybe you just aren't ready yet. Hard as it is to believe, there really is nothing wrong with an 18 year old virgin. If you do want to start dating, try to join clubs, or groups or some kind of activity where you can meet like minded people. Let your friends and friends of friends know that you are looking and they may help you find someone. It will come.
2007-03-28 07:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is really wrong with you. I had my first date when I was 22 years old and "real kissed" someone when I was 23. I am a shy person is one of the reasons and I don't settle for less is the second reason. My opinion is, you haven't met the right person yet. I know that at your age it is hard to hear the word "be patient", but that is exactly what you need to do. The right person will come for you.
2007-03-28 14:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Paul B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awwww you're just UBER nice! That's all! Nothing to worry about at all! And about you not dating or having sex, well, sex before marriage sucks really.. so you're on the right track. I haven't dated anyone either and neither have I kissed any guy..except on the cheek when I was like 11 lol, but that was friendly anyway so yeah you're actually VERY VERY normal, those guys that date every other girl every week or month and messing around having sex before marriage n stuff are abnormal. Lord I'm glad there STILL ARE guys like you!!!
PS. its weird how you have a naked pic of yourself and yet you're uncomfy with dating n stuff :S.. and by the way i just went through your previous questions and you said you were ALREADY dating a "GUY", so you're gay?? well, why post this then! (pure boredom?)
2007-03-28 14:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are a little shy. Confidence is what you need. You were moving too slow and that's why your friend looked elsewhere. If you're not ready for sex, by all means don't. And don't be pressure to do something you're not ready for. However, dating may be a little more difficult because "everyone" is having sex these days and finding someone who's not is will be like finding a needle in a haystack. Good luck!
2007-03-28 14:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you, and don't let yourself think so. There are many reasons people are single. Even the hottest of hot people remain single sometimes because others feel that they are not up to snuff. This leads to lonliness even though there are many that want to have him. You will find someone with the courage to approach you and make you very happy. Be patient and good things will come. :) Good luck to ya. It all depends on the mood, location and type for everyone. It is a game of chance sometimes.
2007-03-28 14:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you honest!!! you just haven't found the one who gives u goose bumps when they touch you, sex is a great thing when u find some one who makes u feel wanted make u feel needed it just seems to me that u want to enjoy it when it happened , you seem to care about your self - keeping in shape, and trying not to cuss is a big thing it shows u have self respect so Ur mind just might not let u just be with any1 it wants u to find some one who also has the same traits as your self. don't be in a rush wait for your night in shinning armor
2007-03-28 15:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 24 for my first date and a virgin until 28. Defining yourself by when you have sex is idiotic.
Sure. Your friends may be having sex and dating since age 12 or whatever, but they're not you. They're on a fast track to picking up diseases and having unplanned babies by age 18.
2007-03-28 14:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by girl with a gun 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you. Maybe you're just shy. I suggest getting out more and socializing. Or, maybe it's just that no one has struck your interest. Be patient and be mindful. You have no idea how many people I talk to resent who they lost their virginity to, or people who wish they wouldn't have gotten married so young, or dated this person or that person. I think it's GOOD to be picky. It's your life, why waste it on someone that doesn't "fit" to your preferences?
2007-03-28 14:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I empathize with your anxiety. I came of age later in life too. Be gentle with and true to yourself and relationships will happen. It sounds like you are more mature than your peers so they just need to catch to see that you are beautiful inside and out.
I started to get more attention in college and hit my stride in my mid-20s. Now I realize that my more lasting qualities are attractive to adults even though they were not attractive to adolescents.
Hang in there, you sound like a good human being.
2007-03-28 15:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Greg C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stand tall and be noticed! I believe that there's the ONE for everyone. For now be ready and learn every lesson and pay more attention on what your heart really desires! Goodluck my last date was 2003 and my last hook up was 2006..but wats the deal!!!
2007-03-28 14:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Dx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋