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Question

Ok i know that im only 13 but i just love children i mean i keep trying to get my gramma to sign me up for baby sitting classes cuz i hear that it lets you decide if your ready for kids but she keeps for getting and i just love kids and my aunt just found out shes prenant and im soooo jealous i want one so bad but I know that if I had one i would probably not beable to afford it so i just wanted to know who old is right for you to have a kid becase im dying to have one please help i need to ALOT...

Answer 1

You need to stop trying to be a grown up. You are still a child yourself.

A WOMAN is old enough to have a child once she is independent and responsible (this is a different age for everyone).

Stop listening to your raging puberty hormones and start liking being a kid. Go through middle and highschool, get a job and get married. Then think about having a kid.

Good grief, I wouldn't even allow a thirteen year old to babysit my kid.

Answer 2

I know kids seem so cute and just plain precious but there is a lot more to it then just having one. You are right to say that you aren't finacially prepared for a child because kids cost more than you could imagine. You aren't mentally ready for a child either, you are only 13 years old!!! You have a lot of things ahead of you to look forward to, like school dances, sleepovers with your friends, parties, going to the movies with a boy you like, prom, and many many more fun and exciting things. You won't be able to do any of these things being a mommy. Moms are on duty 24 hours a day. Ask your aunt to let you stay with her when the baby is born and put you in charge of the 1am feedings, all diaper changes and everything else that comes with being a mom. Crap I'm 28 about to have my first and completely terrified!!! Do that for a week and I promise you will be singing a different tone. Stay young, happy, and free child. You can't get those years back. Good luck and stay in school!!!

Answer 3

PLEASE...do your self a favor and wait. Baby's are alot of responsibility!! They take a lot of care and if you have one so young, who would the father be another 13 year. I'm not trying to sound mean but no 13yr old would want the responsibility of being a father. Babies also take lots of money, at 13 how could you afford it! Your still so young! wait until you graduate from high school and possibly go to college, get a good job, find the right man, then decide if you still want children. As for now just babysit for your aunt or ask around the neighborhood or at school for anyone in need of a babysitter or someone to entertain kids while they do things at home. But please WAIT!!! and goodluck!

Answer 4

Wow hunny your head is in the WRONG place for a 13 year old. Having a baby is a full time responsibility unlike anything else. It is not just changing diapers and feeding bottles. It is teaching morals and understanding, it is listening and nuturing even when you are dead tired after work and could wish to do nothing more than relax and take a bath. It is giving up the last of your spending cash that you could have bought new shoes with because baby wants cup cakes to take into school. It is more than ANYONE your age could ever know. Sweetie, I barely know, because I am pregnant with my first, and scared to death. I am also TOO YOUNG! I am only 19 sonn to be 20, and that is still 7-8 years older than you! How could you expect to deal with this when you barely know the workings of the world? Please forget this, enjoy baby sitting when you can and live your leisurely 13 year old life! Wait untill 25-26, thats what I should have done!

Answer 5

When your aunt's baby is two years old, ask to watch the baby for 2 days straight. You'll find out really fast if you are ready for mother hood.

Your body won't be ready till you are done growing, and at 13 you are not done growing.

Emotionally, if you want a baby this bad, you aren't ready either. But hang in there, you're growing up. Learn to be responsible and when the time is right you'll know.

Just by asking a whole bunch of people you don't know on the internet means your not ready.

Answer 6

Your having a strong maternal instinct. This is caused by hormones.

And now your aunt is having a child you long to have of your own someday. **Did you know 2/3 of all women have there period at the same time, this is caused by hormones we can not tell we are smelling** And pregnant women have many hormone changes. This makes your urge more.

But that is ok. You will be a great mom if you take steps to become one.
Plan your education level you want to have.
babysit maybe till 16 and put 20% in a savings for you new family to be.
At 16 get a part time job and put 20% away for the baby and your new house so on.
When you graduate and have your new hubby to be decide if your going to college and he is.
This way you can give your baby more then just love but a great future.

You may want to try to become a guild at your local hospital. It is wonderfull you get to help people and see many things other kids your age will not.

good luck hun I was just like you in wanting a baby. My mom said i as 11 when the urges started.

Answer 7

It is almost impossible to help a young person understand the difference in maturity between a young person and an older person. It is also really difficult (or it was for me anyway) to understand when you are young (which you are) why you shouldn't do certain things when all you want to do is experience them for yourself. Please just take the babysitting classes and make some money babysitting. That way you get to do all the fun stuff with the kids. When they are your own life gets much more difficult and frustrating. I don't see why anybody would not want you to babysit only out of worrying that it will make you want your own kids even more. Just wait ten more years to have your own kids. Finish high school, graduate from college and get started on a career path you like. You still have time to focus on yourself. Learn to love yourself too. You have a lot of love to give, it's ok to give some to yourself. By the way - babysitting will help you to become a better mother, would it help to look at it that way?

Answer 8

I can remember reading an article in Cosmopolitan when I was younger & it was about what a girl should do before settling down for marriage & or a child.
From what I can remember of the article; it said live alone, go out & party with your girlfriends, be single, etc etc
Honey you are 13 & your main priority should be going to school, getting a dress for seniorprom, having a cap & gown for graduation, choosing a college & eventually accepting college offers...
you may love shildren but let me tell you that, from first hand knowledge, having a child so young will alter your life forever .. wanting to go out with your friends to the mall will be a hassle, & when you're old enough to drink you will have to worry about a babysitter (& on major holidays..good luck!) my love life has dwindle to nothing b/c of being a single mother (guys dont want to have to deal with the worry of a child & sometimes the childs father)
Be a young girl first, not a mother.
You'll know when the time is right & with who. & Sometimes, even then wont be the right time.

Answer 9

babysitting and being a mom are 2 totally different things - children of your own should wait until 3 things have happened in your life - there is not a "good age" -just follow these three and all will be great.
1) you have finished your education - and I would suggest college with this too
2) you have found a wonderful man that you want to spend the rest of your life with and you two are married
3) you and your husband have spen at least 2 - 3 years being a married couple - doing things together that after children will not be as easy to do. Also it gives you time to grow even closer together because parenting can be stressful on newlyweds.

So when you have accomplished all three of these - then it is a wonderful time to bring a child into your life.

Answer 10

babysitting is nothing like being a mom. just because you can learn how to change a diaper and warm a bottle, does not mean you are ready to have a helpless infant depend on you 24 hours a day/ 7 days a week/ 365 days a year.

I can relate to you , honestly, I remember dreaming about having babies at your age, but what would you have to offer a child? LOVE only goes so far. LOVE does not pay for diapers/food/clothes. If you had a baby now, the chances of you finishing high school, going to college, getting a decent job, and being able to support you and your child without the help of welfare/food stamps; is slim to none! Yes, there are some young moms who make it, but the majority will struggle for the rest of their lives. Can you imagine what it would feel like to not be able to feed your hungry child? or to have to sleep in a shelter?

I was pregnant at 19, but looked like I was 15; can you imagine what's it's like to have people look down at you everywhere you go? have people staring at you and shaking their head in disgust? it doesn't feel too good!

The reality is that there is no 'right age' to have a baby, some people are ready at 20, others at 30, others not until 40. but 13 is way too young. I suggest you look for some healthy activities to involve yourself in and keep your mind off thoughts of getting pregnant. Join a youth group at your local church.

Answer 11

Please wait to have a baby! You are so young. You need to be a teenager, have fun, and study. You don't need worry about waking up all night with a baby or what to do when the baby has a fever...
I think babysitting classes would be a good idea for you. I also think you should help your aunt with her little one after he/she is born. Spending time around a newborn will make you realize how much work/attention a baby requires.
Focus on your education right now. Finish high school, decide on a career path, and pursue that career. After you are in a stable job (and hopefully in a stable relationship), then focus on a baby.