My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. I've waited patiently to marry him, I love him and he is my best friend. Now that we've actually talked setting a date for August of 2008...I don't know what to think. I'm worried that I'm doubting my feelings for him, or maybe its just the jitters. The jitters are normal right? I'm just completely blank now, and I don't know how to feel. I know I love him and want to be with him....so why am I feeling unsure now?
2007-03-28 07:04:52 · 4 answers · asked by Cara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it's normal to get cold feet (or the jitters). Getting married is a very big step. If you need to - postpone setting the date for a little while longer until you get use to the idea. However, if you're having doubts of any kind - postpone the wedding until your sure. You're probably right though - it's probably just the jitters. Give it some time and see.
2007-03-28 07:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never known a woman truly in love who has jitters when a wedding date is decided. Most women start the planning as soon as the rock goes on her finger. MEN get jitters - women get them maybe 2 days before the wedding because of stress.. but it sounds to me like your heart isn't sure this is the right decision.
2007-03-28 14:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes making a decision for your future you'll do without question. Other times, making a decision for your future you will question.
When you question a decision you've made, to some extent you are doing something self-protective. This is a good thing; it gets you to evaluate what you plan on doing, whether you want to do it or not, and doing so may lead to your arriving at support for your decision. Such support can be very helpful in those trying times after you've made your decision. Without such support, you might find the smallest test to your decision will drive you to pull out or act rashly.
You may find as a result of questioning that instead of arriving at support for your decision, you arrive at opposition for your decision. That is, you arrive not at reasons *for* making your decision, but reasons *against* making your decision. If you didn't question your pending decision, you wouldn't arrive at the opposition until after the decision, which may make for a much more difficult life for you.
I am in agreement with the others who say it's natural to have what they're calling cold feet. You don't provide enough information to evaluate whether your jitters signal something you should get out of or just the self-protecting questioning that will yield support. So hopefully you find my response above valuable to the extent I can respond.
:)
2007-03-28 14:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by Beeeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its cold feet... Everyone gets them. Just realize that he is an amazing man, you've come this far with him and you want to be with him. If you do feel rushed, set the date back while its still early. You dont have to rush into anything. Good luck
2007-03-28 14:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋