is it wrong to wanna pick and choose who you want in your life? like whom you choose to be friends with?

Question

choose who you want to be your girlfriend?
im the sort of person that has standards. and im very picky and choosy.
id rather spend my life alone, than just accept anyone into my life.
for example if someone said ' ill be your friend' or just any girl or woman approached me. i wouldnt accept them, because i want people in my life, I, CHOOSE not just anyone offered or given.
NO !
so i may be in for a lonely life then, this maybe my fate, because i willl not just accept anyone. im refering to friends
and potential girlfriends by the way. i wont just accept just drifts my way.
does anyone else feel like this?

Answer 1

There is absolutely nothing wrong with that!! Why just settle for the sake of it? That's even worse!! Just taking what you can get and so much people do that!! It's completely senseless!! Just whatever you do, don't end up lowering your standards, that's just ridiculous!!
and about choosing your friends, who doesnt do that?! If nobody did that they would be friends with absolutely everyone they know, and that definitely doesn't happen!!
But if somebody offers, don't just dismiss them because of the fact that you didn't choose them!! Think about it a bit more than that and it could actually be someone or something you might want!!

Answer 2

Well of course it's not wrong to decide who your friends/lovers/etc. will be. It's your life and your choices. However, if you are so judgmental that you lose out on a lot of experiences or people, you may be going overboard. You have to realize that you are not perfect and neither is anyone else. People have to make exceptions for you and you have to make exceptions for them.

I have a 37 year old cousin who has never dated because she is waiting for some good looking hunk to be her man; honestly, she is not very attractive (by societal standards), has a mild disability, is really blunt and outspoken, and has sloppy hygiene. She hasn't had many offers for dating and friendship but when she has, she has the nerve to judge them!

You can only be so picky. Have high standards and expectations. I do. But also realize that you're never going to find perfect people. You're not perfect, yourself, so stop being so hard on everyone or you'll be lonely...although you say you don't mind.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I think that people come into your life for a reason and a purpose and you learn from them. Read this poem and it will explain. :-)

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away Some times they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.


LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with being choosy about your friends. If you didn't apply some standards you might wind up with criminals or otherwise bad types that would negatively impact your life. "Birds of a feather flock together."

Just don't be SO picky that you have NO friends. No one is perfect.

Answer 5

I personally don't think there is anything wrong at all about being picky about your friends and girlfriends. I am not lonely and have lots of friends...they just happen to be friends that I am compatible with because I am picky....That is what is so
great about freedom.

Answer 6

Well sometimes you have to stop being so picky in life, I understand you have standards but what if you set your standards to high? You might miss out on "the one" or your soul mate. I'm not saying dis~regard the standards you set for yourself but just loosen them up a little. But if you choose to be lonely just get a whole bunch of cats to keep you company! I used to have very high ( and I do mean HIGH!!!) standards for the guys I date but most of them end up hurting me or just being the wrong person for me.

Answer 7

I totally get where your coming from.

I do exactly the same thing and it has worked out a treat.

I don't get involved in other people's drama's unless i want to.

I don't have to go out when i don't want to.

I don't have to be pretend people look or sound great or right or whatever if i don't want.

My life is so much better since i cut all the cr*p out of it and started dealing with it on my own terms.

Good luck hun. Hope it all works out for you.

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong with being picky about friends or girlfriends. I think it would be wrong to accept people just so you will have someone in your life. Eventually it will deteriorate because you would not be happy with them, whether it be friends or girlfriends.

Answer 9

Have you heard of the saying you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family.

if you don't want to be friends with someone you don't have to.

but being to picky can make you a lonely person let your hair down abit you don't have to be friend with the first person you meet but do try and make people more exceptable in your life...

Answer 10

Answer: Nope nothing 'wrong' with that at all.

Just be aware that 'those whom You Choose as your Friends / Lovers etc, may NOT accept 'Your Choice' ~ which is something of how I read as a possible tone in your question.


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