hello all. i am a mother of 5 kids, 9 yrs - 2 yrs old, my significant other and i both work and it is hard to find our alone time. for those of you out there that have or have had this predicament, i am desperate for some advice. serious advice!
i do not want to see ........throw ur kids outside, send them to family, wait till they're in bed, etc. i already kno all of these things and i do not want to schedule sex, it seems like a chore that way and i do not want to look at it in that sense. besides we have sent kids to family for some alone time and it seems to be a "wam-bam thank you mam" time. that not what i was lookin for.
so if anyone out there has some serious advice that WILL help......then PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!
2007-03-28 06:59:29 · 6 answers · asked by sabylady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have a 19 year old and a 20 year old! Please tell me!!!!
I do not like planned evenings myself! I have no ideas.
2007-03-28 07:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Schedule a romantic weekend or a couple of weekdays away somewhere you both will like. Spend a day together doing some relaxing activity you like such as walking the beach, hiking, biking, horse riding, etc. and when there is no pressure brewing, things will happen when they're ready.
The kids can be at grandma's house and out of sight, out of mind.
2007-03-28 07:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make sending them to family sound like a bad solution, but, it's a gift to the children and to the family members to have time together. Are their friends or relatives who will "switch" kids with you on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon so you can have time for a long nap and a relaxed time together?
If not, can you get a baby sitter and go with your husband to a hotel for a whole day??
You may not be in the mood- but this is a wonderful gift to give to the marriage.
from a grandma-aged person
2007-03-28 07:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but you really do have to work at it, which sometimes means sending them over to mom's or waiting until they're asleep. You can't have it in any way that remotely resembles life before children. You probably should have already just resigned yourself to that a long time ago. Try to make it fun, like a date, is about the best you can do.
2007-03-28 07:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by Ben 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen what father benjamin said. this is the life you made for yourself now deal with the reality of it. your just fantasizing if your think theres a better way kids are gonna be around for a long time. I should know I was a child of 5 kids and my parents hardly had time for each other.
2007-03-28 07:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have your kids spend the night at your parents' house or your significant other's parents' house. that way there will be more romance and not a wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am thing.
2007-03-28 07:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋