My husband claims he isnt gay - he had me dress him in my bra panties nylons skirt blouse heels etc.. had me feel up his skirt and everything - he loved it - is he gay? Bi? or what what should i do - i liked it too but im kind of scared to where this is going
2007-03-28 06:55:06 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
Of course your husband loved being dressed up as a girl, most guys do, but that doesn't make them gay or bi. You should worry or be scared, your husband is just a cross-dresser. And since you enjoyed it & he loved it, just dress him up as a girl more & have fun, but take him shopping for his own clothes so he doesn't have to wear your clothes.
2007-03-29 15:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For religious sources, I once asked a rabbinical scholar about this, because my ex bf like this. The man said the laws against it in the levitical code pertains to people who cross dress for the specific purpose of having a homosexual relationship.
Other than that it is simply a matter of a preference of a choice of material you wish to drape on your body.
Cross dressing is simply a matter of wearing clothing that is traditionally designed for the other gender.... Scot's wear kilts.. or skirts... a very many thing... traditionally some of the fiercest warriors... remember "Braveheart"?
To take this to the logical conclusion, all you women who have ever worn slacks... jeans.... t-shirt... you are all cross dressers, and I include myself in this.
Some will say that it is different because the jeans and slacks and suits are cut for a woman's figure. How would that be any different from a man having a satin evening gown tailored for him? or an every day silk blouse tailored to fit his body? I would often wear my late husbands pajamas to bed when he was away from home on a trip or something... I was wearing a man's clothing. How many wives have worn their husbands shirts or boyfriends t-shirt?
Anyone who has done this and then claims it is sick for a man to wear women's clothing is a hypocrite
2007-03-28 07:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Alexia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know what. I thought a minute, if my husband of 17 years came to me in a dress I would have to run. I have 3 sons and I tell ya. I wouldn't want them to see their father that way at all. I would give him a choice, either put the dress back in my closet or walk. Ya can't have both worlds. When I see that I shudder. God is perfect and does not make any mistakes-when a man or woman cross dresses to me that is blashemy in God's face. You man is a man because God made him one for a reason. This is a touchy subject. BUt, aside from what I think and feel. You have to sit with him and if you both love each other and want to stay married-can you live with him in a dress at times? Can you accept him as he is? It is a decision you have to make together. I hear of couples who have successful family life despite one cross dressing. Find a support group and both go and become more informed of how other families overcome and get through dad's cross dressing. What I think, what anyone else thinks is irreveleant. It is what you think that counts. What is in your heart for this man?
2007-03-28 07:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I dont think he is bi or gay or he wouldn't be married to you. Maybe this is just fun to him. Sort of like a fetish. Men get bored after they have been married a while and want to look for ways to spice their love life up a bit. At least he is doing this with you instead of someone else. Dont worry.
2007-03-28 06:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all crossdressers are gay, they just enjoy wearing women clothing. But I would talk to my husband and really find out what is going on, tell him that you don't like that and it embassy's you. He just may understand and stop what he is doing. I hope you don't have children, this will embassy them or scare them for life if they knew that their daddy did that.
2007-03-28 07:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is great that he feels comfortable with you to be able to share his feelings with you about that. There are many men who crossdress, but it definately does not mean they are gay or bi. Go with it and don't worry about it. You might even share with him your deepest fantasies. You guys will have an amazing relationship.
2007-03-28 07:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by pamela2406 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Force him to be a girl all the time and when he isnt around call a doctor and tell them you need him to cut his di$k off so good luck have fun you will need it with the expression you are showing and taht this will go not good but badly hey look at the fun of it though ya i know have fun
2007-03-28 07:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk about it with him - and ask what makes him tick. what does he like? what does he get out of it? what could you do to satisfy him?... you may not want to ask some of those questions, but its a good way of finding out where exactly this 'is' going.
If he makes you feel uncomfotable, arrange ways of him doing it when you arent around - or compromise.
Or you could just buy him a new dress and suspenders for his birthday?
2007-03-28 07:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should see a counselor together.
Even if he tells you he is not gay or not transgender or whatever he maybe confused because he has hidden it.
Get professional help so you 2 can move forward in a healthy & open way.
2007-03-28 06:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by Why I oughtta... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run Honey as fast as you can!!! Does it matter if he is gay or bi? No I don't think so something is obviously going on and what's wrong with you to even participate in that. SICK
2007-03-28 06:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by KH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋