one of the grandmothers to my unborn child thinks that she has a say in what the babys name is going to be?

Question

i have said to her who said you was naming the baby and she says well i did and i mean we dont even know what we are having yet and she wont stop its making me very angry the name she has picked i like but my husband and i were considering other names and just dont like being told what to name my 1st child. what should i do beause she just wont listen!! and please i dont need anyone elses negativity!!

Answer 1

It's your baby!! If this is your mother, you need to tell her to butt out. If it is your husband's mother, then HE needs to explain that this is YOUR baby, not hers, and she needs to butt out. In any case, you are not obligated to let anyone else name your child.

Answer 2

Pushy, pushy people. The older and fatter they get the more aggressive and dominating they become. Too bad you can't contact one of those animal programs, have her darted and humanely relocated to another country.

Just agree with her and avoid all the elevated blood pressure that she would otherwise give you. Then decide, without her consultation what the baby's name should be.

Let her find out in the paper that her elephantine pressure was not successful. These type of people are over-bearing, controlling and trying to relive their lives by dominating yours. Ever read or see "Pride and Prejudice?" There was Lady so and so who dominated everyone or so it seemed, within a fifty mile radius.

When I grew up, old biddies like that were called "old lady" so and so. Pitty, some of the titles of the past have been forgotten because if there ever was an "old lady" so and so, it surely must be this woman.

You have the choice to fight back and be upset all the time or do the smart thing and basically feed her a line, ignore her suggestive domination and do what you want. Let her name this one and she'll attempt to dictate not only the name of the next one but when you have it, date, time and place.

Ask her who named her, her mother, her Grandmother or was it by a royal command from the king? I assume she was born before 1952, otherwise you might insult her by saying queen as that'd have to be Queen Victoria who died in 1901. That's a subtle insult that she might not catch.

Or, you could have fun with it. Just go with it and act crazy; you're the pregnant woman with all the food cravings. Put her suggestive name on a piece of paper, put it in a hat with a bunch of other nonsense names and besure to pull out something horrible, like Momema Gohmba Jamohmica. That has a nice ring to for a made up name.

It doesn't matter what political party you favor but if the old lady's Labour, how about telling her if it's a girl you're going to name it after Margaret Thatcher? Or if she's Tory, and a boy after Tony Blair. That should put a few grey hairs on her head.

Answer 3

Chances are that if you are having trouble with her now she will probably give you some trouble in the future. Your child is the one who is going to have to live with whatever name he or she has. My opinion is that you should let her know that you will keep that name in mind but your mind is not made up yet and you might name him or her something else. Family politics can be difficult to manage, but none-the-less it's a part of life. Don't be surprised when she starts telling you how to take care of your kids too! At least that's my experience, it might be better for you though. If you don't want to use the name the grandmother wants you to for this baby, maybe you can use it in the future.

Answer 4

Let her know that you will consider her choice in names, and tell her that while you DO like it, you and your hubby are also considering other names. Also, tell her that if the baby's first name does not end up being her choice, maybe the middle name will be. All in all, it really is your choice. You are the one who has to carry this child for nine months and then deliver! But, being open to suggestions is still a nice thing to do-does'nt mean she gets the final say! I'm letting my in-laws give suggestions, but no promises that i will name the baby what they like best. Truth is, whatever name you choose, she will accept and learn to love, because she'll associate the name with the cute face of her granddaughter! Good luck!

Answer 5

You name your baby what you want. But I really think you should start preparing for a long long period of time of this woman interferring with how you raise this child, what you feed, him/her, as well as every little picky criticism she can come up with like clothes, toys, how you hold the baby, etc.

I feel sorry for you--this is only the beginning. If you doubt what I say, ask yourself this--If she is trying to control things before the child is even born what comes next?

And for the life of me I don't know how you are going to stop her. Maybe you can ask that question here and others will have an idea of what to do.

I also suspect this is not the first time she has tried to run your life for you and husband, is it?

Answer 6

Be gentle with "grandmother." She will be one of your best babysitters when the baby is older and, believe me, you will need her. Take some time to remember the good things about her, then gently remind her that she enjoyed naming her own children and you and your husband want to do the same. Then tell her how much you really like the name she suggested and tell her that it is on your list from which to choose. Then don't discuss it with her any more. She will love that baby no matter what you chose as a name. Best of luck.

Answer 7

Like you, I don't even know what I'm having yet and a grandmother is getting involved in the naming. My mother in law HATES the girl name we have picked out (Lyra). She insists that we name our baby a more "traditional" name that is more "appropriate" for a little girl. I told her one time that I appreciated her input but was still going to decide on my own baby's name, and left it at that. Unless she asks, the name won't come up again until there's a baby shower and the name LYRA is all over baby's stuff. If it's even a girl.

I feel ya on this one, and it's so annoying. Just tell her that you're glad she wants to be involved in the pregnancy and that you appreciate the input, what a nice name it is, blah blah blah, but that it is your baby and your final decision. Good luck!

Answer 8

Do not get yourself to upset over this, your precious one feels you angry feelings too, and you don't want anything negative taking over any of your emotions! You and your husband are the only people who have any say so on what to name your child. You are going to get input from everyone including strangers, just let the unwanted info roll of your shoulders. Be polite and tell all that you are not telling anyone the chosen name until the little one arrives, and that's all there is to it. I'm sure she'll be upset, so be it she'll get over it!

Answer 9

You and your better half have made an relatively courageous determination. i could no longer even start to think of your ache suitable now. I relatively have a chum who went by way of some thing comparable and had to results of their infant by using fact it grow to be so poorly. It takes lots to make a determination like that. ending your infant's suffering is the kindest ingredient you should do - it particularly is elementary to be egocentric and carry the being pregnant on by using center destroy and discomfort you will experience terminating the being pregnant yet you're being the suitable mothers and dads and not inflicting your baby discomfort while born. a ideal call for a definite infant. you will continually carry her on your heart. each and all the suitable for the destiny.

Answer 10

Tell everyone that you and hubby have decided on a name but you won't be telling anyone until after the baby is born. Leave it at that. When it comes time to name the baby they won't be asking her anyway. After the baby comes, it really won't matter what it is named, everyone will love it just the same and all the tensions will be forgotten.

Answer 11

that is your baby ... you name it what you and your husband choose not her. I had the same problem with my mother in law and as soon as I found out I was having a girl I told her the name we chose and then she tried telling me my childs middle name but I had to stress to her that this is my child and if she wanted another name that she would just have to go have another baby of her own!