I've told this girl that I love her but she says shes not interested, should I keep trying?

Question

There was this girl at school who I developed a crush on.Because I was a christian I told myself it was just a phase I was going through. Months had past and I had been fine then one day it all came back 10x stronger ever since it had been growing stronger and I got really stressed.
I had loved her for 3 years and had finally gained a friendship with her, within 4 weeks of our friendship I told her how I felt. She told me that she didnt really go for girls and that she had a boyfriend anyway. It hurt me like hell I didnt speak to her for a while I thought I better give her some space to think about it more clearly then remebered all the times that she starred at me and always tried to get my attention, she kept on sending me things on bebo as if she was trying to tell me something.

So I think I might have a chance, she has nothing against gays, she is now single and I think she does like me. But I dont want to cause any damage to our friendship if it goes wrong. Should I take a ris

Answer 1

Learn to take rejection, you're going to have to face it at some point. Everyone does. You might as well get used to it now.
Accept it and move on!

You have better things to do with your time and energy than to waste it on someone who won't return the same effort.

Answer 2

A guy was like to that to me when I was about 16. I'm 26 now. He told me no for 3 months. We've been together for 10 years now, married for 5 of those years. Persistance can pay off. But you have to make sure you really do like her and it's not because you can't have her. Everything happens for a reason.

Answer 3

You said it yourself, you don't want to damage a perfectly good friendship. Sometimes we develop feelings for others, and wish they feel the same way about us too. But we cannot really force someone to love us. And she's straight, as she has told you. So please respect that and move on. There great women out there, you need to find the right one for you. It's more a question of finding the one who is capable of loving you the same way you love her or him.

Answer 4

since noone else had answered i thought i would...i think you moved a bit to quickly on her i mean for weeks of being friends with someone and they tell you they love you moving a bit fast...also if she isnt bisexual or lesbian then you cant push her and she may be leaving you messages to cheer you up or somthing but she could like you....for now i think you should leave her be friends but not so close and if she decides she does like you then go for it but till then just leave it but dont get your hopes up becuse it may turn out shes not!

Answer 5

Keep On Trying. Push Yourself. im doing the same

Answer 6

You should not continue to persue her. You told her your feelings and how you felt towards her, she in turn said she was not interested and now she's single. I'm sure she still knows your into her. I would let her come to me. You were already let down once. Don't let it be twice.

Answer 7

Don't push yourself on someone b/c then your going to do nothing but push them away just give them space and see what happens from that

Answer 8

Accept the friendship...don't push her or you'll drive her away. Can you accept just being friends? It's hard to let go (I know this!) but doable...

Answer 9

It's a sad fact of life that we don't always get what (who) we (think we) want.

She's said "no!". If you value her friendship you'll accept what she's said as true - however much it hurts.

Answer 10

she said no already, so leave her alone. Do you want to be her friend? then be her friend. It is because of pushy people like you that straight people start feeling uncomfortable around gays.