since his return he has dreams which cause him to have
wet dreams in his sleep this includes moans, groans, kissing
someone in his sleep,.thrusting his groin as if having intercourse along with body movements,now WHEN I sleep close to him and this happens , i become ugly, feeel ugly ! i feel like im dying inside. he clams he is not responsible for his dreams. he was employed at a gambling/nite club etc. help
2007-03-28 06:21:15 · 4 answers · asked by GRAMMY1 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
why does it make u feel ugly. i think u r the one with the problem. u can't control what u dream of.
2007-03-28 06:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by Miki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to answer you without making you worry more than you already do. You know that 9 months is a long time for a young man or even some middle-aged men, to go without sex. It is harder on a man than it is with women, though I will have to argue that with feminists, yet it is true. They are also full of ideas about their health and sexual abstinence making them unhealthy and of course the old "If you don't Use it you will Lose it" saying. You should not blame him for having sex with someone else. He probably missed you. Men are so screwed up he probably pretended she/they was/were YOU.
He might just have a build-up of sexual energy from being away so long too. You have to consider that. Is he making love to you a lot now? Maybe the man Did Abstain and his desires are stronger now that he can finally release them.
My question to you is: Why do you have to know? Would your life be better or worse if he had been with another woman? Would you torture yourself and then forgive him and have to live with those hurt feelings? It's like my mother told me about World War 2, when the men finally won the war and came back home, women didn't ask. They thanked God Almighty their husband came home at all. I found it hard to believe my mother didn't care.
But she did care. She cared so much that she couldn't even ask the question, much less wait for the answer.
Peace. Be well.
2007-03-28 13:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is caught up with someone other than you.I would move on with my life.
2007-03-28 13:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So dump him.
2007-03-28 13:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋