think my fiance is cheating on me.. we supposed to get married in July I know him for 4 years now but we weren't talking for 2 years he left me for no reasons. now that I gave him another Chance. everything was good in til. my family lost all The money that we were saving . so he didn't even talk about it. he seems to be happy he told me "now we don't need a wedding .I said why not if u love u will be there form and u will get me a wedding and I Will help out to. he said baby don't u think about what after the wedding.he dosent like to go out. if he wants to go out he only go to the movie theater so now I know hes cheap he always asking and talk to me about sex. even know my culture and his doesn't alowed u to have sex before marriage. I am still virgin but hes not. I don't care aboutthat . I Don't know he seems to be paying around again and only wants a free women to help out with rent get kids and sty home .. witsh is not ganna happened. Didn't know this thing about him until I get to know him better.yesterday I had a long day at work. he call es me and asked if he can stop by my house I said okay. he set down 7 feet away from me. and he didn't say nothing to me not even whats going on. I was so sick and not on the mood. his phone rings. I heard a woman's voice.asking he if he can pick her up . as soon he finish he stand up ."gtg I was like why he said I will see u tomorrow. I said why don't u see me today. I was like who is SHE he said no its he. I said I know its SHE he said its my Coworker needed a ride . I said well u r here with me and she Call u don't she have other or BF or husband why she calls u . he said LOOK AT U U SETTING 2OOO FEETS AWAY FROM ME ." I was like what about u u want me to give a kiss u supposed be the one who makes me smile an forget a bout my long day. he left an closed the door in my face. I felt like hes cheating on me. 30 minits letter he called me and was like I am sorry I apologizes u just don't understand me blahs blha bahababababab and I was like why are u ling to me . I asked u a Q I just need the A that's it. he said Didn't pick up nobody and I m just home now. I hung up and I was thinking whats going on.??!!! could he really be cheating on me >???!!! WHY becouse I don't do what he wants . I didn't asked him to be with me he choose not me ??!!!
2007-03-28 06:20:25 · 6 answers · asked by I_belong_to_me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
by the way Ia m 21 and his 28
2007-03-28 06:20:43 · update #1
First, I admire you for staying true to your culture to remain a virgin! There's not enough of that anymore. However, I don't think he is cheating on you, I just think he is not in LOVE with you! I think he is just looking for a combination of maid, housekeeper, nanny, and sex partner. He isn't interested in a close personal realtionship that everybody should have. If he is willing to just walk out on you, after first LYING to you, to give a "friend" a ride, then he certainly doesn't care much about you! If he did, before he ever got off the phone, he would have told her to hold on, and would have asked you if you minded if he went and gave her a ride and then came back! Drop him like a sack of rocks! You sound like a girl who knows herself well enough to realize that you will find another guy, one who will treat you with the respect that you deserve!
2007-03-28 06:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ken S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop all this nonsense and tell him to get lost.What kind of person is he to treat you this way?Doesn't sound to me that he cares about you at all and I think you know that too.
You don't need this in your life.You deserve more respect and caring.
I would call off the wedding and move on with my life before it's too late.There are lots of guys out there for you to meet.
Better safe than sorry.
Good Luck.
2007-03-28 13:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't going to work. Break the engagement now or you will be divorcing after the marriage.
2007-03-28 13:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, okay well think about it is this the kind of relationship you want. Doesn't seem like he really wants to get married.
2007-03-28 13:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Babe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out now!! hes immature, and im sure the sex is the issue. you already see the way things are now...once you get married its gonna be worse cause you will be MARRIED! dont do anything that your not sure about...get out now!
2007-03-28 13:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by *siigh* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break it off. it doesn't make sense for you to stay with him. you're better off without him!
2007-03-28 13:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋