we were in a friends with a future (as a couple) category, but there are things about him that worry me. First, he is 40 and living with mom. He got divorced 2 years ago, and went to mom's to look for comfort and company, but i feel as if 2 years is well past expected time to go back to your feet again. He said he was going back to college, hasn't and after quitting his job 8 months ago to pursue his degree, only survives doing part times. I on the other hand, am a really assertive person, i keep myself busy from 6 am till about 9 pm. I have 2 college degrees, and my feet well planted on earth.
Now, what worries me most is that this person might be clinically depressed and hasn't even noticed. Or could he be a dreamer? I mean, he hasn't got a car because he can use mom's, never has a penny to spend, but doesn't actually do anything to resolve this situation!
2007-03-28 06:12:43 · 8 answers · asked by AMBER D 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Doesn't sound like a smart match for you. You sound like you need someone who is motivated, who has dreams they actively pursue and who can encourage you in your pursuits as well.
Some people are more likely to drag you down while others build you up. Find people who help you move in the direction you want to go.
2007-03-28 06:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the more we find out about a person, the more we realize that he has limited potential as a life partner. That's what "courtships" are for...to learn more about each other to decide if you want to make the ultimate commitment.
From your description, your friend sounds like he has serious problems. I'll be honest with you, there are a lot of yellow flags and some red flags there...His problems may not be psychological, or he may be depressed. To find out, he'll need the help of a counselor. If he refuses, then he is probably beyond help.
2007-03-28 06:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me I do not think this person can break away from his mother! Maybe this is why this person is divorced.I would try to get some feedback from his ex.This may can help you more on his mental status and other related issues this person may have. This person may not be a friend you may want to get to know for a long term relationship.Try checking out the persons background before this relationship takes off too far.You never really know anyone! You sound like you have a life really going for you,and I really do not want you to become depressed with a person like this.Good Luck!!!!!
2007-03-28 06:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this person sounds like a total loser.
the first thing I thought of when you said he lives with mom is that he was either a "trekkie" or was the type that went to renaciance fairs.
2007-03-28 06:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear....run away!
Momma's boys make lousy spouses.
40?! He is looking for another mother, and trust me, you will never measure up.
He will not be the PARTNER you want.
2007-03-28 06:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line: He's a loser and you are wasting your time. Drop him like a bad habit and move on to someone better.
2007-03-28 06:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go find yourself a grown MAN.
2007-03-28 06:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gurl leave him alone
2007-03-28 06:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by lilj4135 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋