How soon is to soon for a nother baby?

Question

I have a 3 month old son and I love him to death but I can't stop thinking of having a nother baby.I love my husband alot and he told me he wants to get the house done first will we will have the house done by the middle of April, 2007.But I want to get pregnant again.I don't want to be old when my kids move out of the house.I still want to be young.I will be 21 in Sept.and my husband will be 21 in Dec. and my son will be one in Dec. How soon is to soon to start to have a nother one?I don't want people saying that i am being unfair or anything like that.

Answer 1

Well my children are 12 months apart and I love it!! However, I have heard many times that the "perfect" age difference is 3 years. They are close enough to be friends but not too close to be competitive. My sister and I are best friends and she is 3 years younger than me

Answer 2

I would recommend waiting at least a year before trying to have another baby. Give your body time to recover from the last pregnancy and until your current baby is sleeping through the night and not demanding so much of your time. Pregnancy take a large amount of energy out of your body and so does caring for an infant. Also having a second child is more demanding then you think when they are close together. Mine are 19 months apart and it was really rough the first year. Also you have a higher rate of miscarriage with pregnancy's that are too close together because your body is physically not ready to handle another pregnancy. After I had my first baby I went on the birth control patch which was a nightmare and ended up getting pregnant 2 months after my first son was born, I carried the pregnancy for 3 months and then miscarried and the doctor told me the contributing factor of my miscarriage was because I got pregnant too soon after my last pregnancy and my body just couldn't handle the pregnancy. I don't think your being unfair or selfish I just think you should make sure it's what is best for you, your health and your family.

Answer 3

I can tell you from expierence that it is too soon to have another baby. Its not good for your health, and it wont be good for your son. I can ttell you what to do, only you can make your descions, but here is my story: I had my daughter when I was 21, and married, when she was 8 months old I was obsessed with having another baby, I got pregnant after one try. I found it hard to take care of her and be pregnant. When my son was born my daughter was 17 months and barely walking. My son had colic, reflux, asthma, and a milk protein allergy. He cried for 7 months, and we were constantly at the doctors. He didnt sleep all nite until he was 7 months. Although this might not happen to you, your first child needs you through this first year. i can remember one day just finally relaxing and sitting with my little girl and realizing how much she had grown and developed and also realizing that i missed a lot of it by constantly being by her brother side. He cried so much that she didnt get the best mom she could. Although you want another baby, this is the time in our lives when we dont come first, our kids do. I would wait just a bit longer, have another baby when your son is about 2. let things calm down a bit. If you get preganant now you could be a high risk pregnancy, it takes the body almost a year to get over having a baby. I also have another son, I had him when my 1st son was 2. It was a much better expierence, my 1st son could enjoy and share in taking care of his new brother. And my daughter just thinks he is a dolly to play with. lol

Answer 4

I have a 9 month old and every since I had her , every now and then I get those pangs of wanting to be pregnant again. Honey , you have all the time since your only 21. Dont load up on kids right away , give your self a chance to spend a couple years with the 1 before you have another. I have a 4 and half yr old also and Im only 23 . It's hard when you have children at home all day all the time.. trust me. Wait a little while .

Answer 5

My two youngest children are 11 months apart. I got pregnant when my second child was 3 months old. I have tough pregnancies and I ended up missing out on a lot of my second child's first year due to being hospitalized and put on bed rest. I love my youngest and do not in any way regret having her, but I do regret not being there as much as I wanted to for my second child. There are so many things I missed seeing and being a part of and there's no way to get that back. Even if you do not have high risk pregnancies like I have, there's a good chance you still won't be able to be as active with him as you'd like to be. I would suggest holding off for a little while and enjoy the time with your son. Having children close together is very hard on your body. I got pregnant with my fourth when the third was 3 months and I ended up losing the baby. There is no medical proof to back me up, but I think it was the strain on my body of being pregnant for year after year after year that contributed to my miscarriage. Even, if you wait another year to conceive, you will not be old when they move out. You can do what you like, but I hope you take my advice into consideration. Congratulations on your son.

Answer 6

You are only 20, you have plenty of years to have kids without being old when they move out. I felt the same way when my son was about the same age, but we decide to wait until he was 2 and a half before we tried again. Although, my daughter was born when he was 2 and 3 months it ended up being great because I didn't have 2 babies in diapers at the same time and I had a little helper that loved to help me do things for his baby sister.

Answer 7

I would say that if you are up for it, can afford another baby right now, and have the ambition to do so...go for it! I am 23 and just recently became adopted mama to a newborn (she was 6 months yesterday) and on her 3 month birthday our little foster son was born (3 months old yesterday.) I never thought that I could have ever been able to keep up with two babies so close together, but it has been the time of my life! Good Luck...don't puch your husband though....Mid April isn't that far away!

Answer 8

It is recommended that you wait 18 months after giving birth to try and have another. That's how long it takes your body to heal from the first pregnancy. It sounds like you do have issues here, because a baby is a lot of work, and you are awful young. There is plenty of time for another. In addition, my son is 10 months and I got pregnant by not being careful, and lost the baby. Your body just isn't ready for another baby yet. Good luck to you!

Answer 9

3 months is too soon. Your 21 you'll have so much time to make other baby's just enjoy your son for now he will need your attention. By december your husband could be done with the house your son will be 1, i think then would be a good time to start trying again!!!

Answer 10

I think there are some real advantages to having children close in age. My sisters and I are all very close in age and we had a wonderful time growing up together. I know people who have intentionally spaced their children apart for the sake of money, and money isn't everything!

Still, I think I would talk with a doctor before intentionally getting pregnant just three months after giving birth. I read somewhere that you should wait a year to 18-months before trying to conceive again.

Also, you have plenty of time before you are "old." Age is more mental than physical for most people.