My hubby and i have been married almost 4.5 yrs and i am 23 yrs old he is 29.We were seperated for 8 months due to fighting i felt he was pressuring me to become pregnant and a stay at home mom which i was not ready for at all.During the seperation i started seeing my ex.bf and first everything from highschool. I only dated 3 guys before my hubby but always seem to go back to my first bf for booty calls or flings even though now we are both married to different people(he is a newly wed).Any way i just found out i am 4 months pregnant but my hubby and i did not get back together till 2 months ago?I love my hubby and dont know what to do?Dont want to hurt him so i am thinking maybe to just pass it off as his?
2007-03-28 06:08:16 · 27 answers · asked by Jackie B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ex. bf and i have a strange relationship but i dont really want to tell him he is going to be a dad because then he'll get territorial.I want to fix this! my hubby said anything that happened on break never happened.
2007-03-28 06:13:18 · update #1
Who is megan C.????
2007-03-28 07:30:30 · update #2
Are you Megan C writing with another name? Your questions and situations are similar...
2007-03-28 07:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight you didnt want to get pregnant with your hubby so you guys separate and you go and get pregnant by an ex. Your an asssshole and do not even think of keeping the truth from your hubby. Confess NOW and take the consequences that come with. You should be so ashamed of yourself. Does the words AIDS / STDs not matter to you. What about your hubby that you could have infected if you did contract something. Everyone (hubby and the ex boyfriends wife) needs to be told and for goodness sakes everyone should be tested!!
2007-03-28 13:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are kidding, right? You are going to pass a full term baby off as a 7 month infant at birth. I have no idea what kind of intelligence your husband has, but someone in his family is going to know the difference. So get over yourself, own up to the truth, take your lumps, and get on with your life, whatever it may be. You have made a bed of some kind, and now you must lie in it. Sorry to be so blunt, but face it. ... you and I both know that you have to come clean about this. Let the crap settle where it may, it sounds as if you are not together enough to be married to this guy in the first place...things have a way of working out for the best. Allow them to with honesty, not lies...this one will come back and bite you bad. Good luck
2007-03-28 13:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women like you are a disgrace!
I hope you don't go and lie to your husband about the baby being his. If you're still sleeping with you ex for booty calls or flings then you should have never got married. So you were separated when this happened so what you were still married.
Tell your hubby that you love so much the truth and pray he doesn't leave your cheating ***.
2007-03-28 13:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to tell all the men involved here what is up and the sonner the better. Your husband is 29 and can probably count. If a fully formed 40 week baby pops out at 32 weeks, he can probably guess something's wrong. You don't want this fight in the delivery room. If your exbf is territorial and about to be a father then he needs to be with you and you both need to quit playing around. Right now you have two people who haven't been fooling around on the hook. Your husband and your exbf's wife, who probably has no clue he's been creeping around or getting another woman pregnant.
2007-03-28 13:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The attitude you and your husband have about "anything that happens on breaks, never happened" is the problem. I thought a break from marriage meant time apart to think things through, to see how problems can be resolved, not a chance to jump in the sack with someone else. You both need to re think of what it means to be in a committed union such as marriage. But first and foremost, you do need to come out and tell him the truth. It would be unfair for him to think this child is his when it isn't. I have a feeling he will do the math himself and figure it out for himself. Stop playing games with each others love and start to focus on doing what is right even if it hurts. I do hope you both will have some chance and repairing and restoring what is left of your marriage. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-28 13:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amazing what is put up on this site.....Geeezzzzz doesn't this future kid have a great life ahead of it, because you plan so well? I'm not insulting you, hon, just absolutely amazed at the lack of morality on your part, and the part of your old boy friend,, the lack of fidelity each of you has for your respective spouses, the lack of love, understanding, and courage. And how absolutely and totally selfish the two of you are.... neither fit to be a spouse, nor a parent. No wonder our school kids are soooo f(l)ucked up...
In your place, I'd get an abortion (I'm pro choice) probably get into a few sessions of counseling to see why my head isn't screwed on straight. Though not the best of all choices, it would be better than lying --- DNA is easy now---- and having a kid who was not wanted, nor planned for, and indeed not even sired by the husband I was still married tol... geez, what a mess.
2007-03-28 13:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Your poor unborn child.
Beginning a life with a lie is never the solution.
Take a minute & image how your husband would feel when, years from now, he finds out he's not the father of this child. Plus, I assume your husband can figure basic math. If you just got back together 2 months ago after 8 months apart, he'll be able to figure out he's not the father of this child.
2007-03-28 13:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by retropink 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not a good idea. It will destroy 2 marriages, you wont have your husband and your ex wont have his wife. What would you do? You get with the ex, hey he cheated on his wife/GF with you, can you really trust him to not cheat on you? You pass this off as your husbands kid, what happens if the child gets sick and the blood types don't match, there you are, now your kids messed up too. I'm against that Idea, but it is your choice. I wish you and your baby all the best in the world, you have some very hard decisions to make
2007-03-28 13:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
things like like dating during a seperation tend to happen and even though u got pregant from this ex bf u should still tell your hubby and ur ex what happend mayb ur hubby would understand
but please dont get an abortion cause that is sooo wrong if u would to do anything like u didnt want it then put it up for adoption with and open adoption so ull still be in contact with the child
2007-03-28 13:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by Miss November 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh hell no, how can you say you love your "hubby" and let him think its his kid? That's entrapment! You need to let him make the decision to stay with you. If love conquers all like some would say then you don't have to worry. Otherwise two marriages will be ruined because of a booty call! You make your bed now you have to sleep in it!
2007-03-28 13:14:40 · answer #11 · answered by biggdaddy1669 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋