1st off I know I need to go find me a single man.One of my married friends helps me out with bills& whatever else I need. we have been together for over five years.he is an older man & very insecure. He works from 12to11pm with two part time jobs. i work from 9to5pm.i can't see him that often except on weekends when I don't have my son. The other friend messed up with his wife and got kicked out 4 going to jail 4 child support on a woman he was with four years ago. He has been with me for 2wks now. He got his job back and im sure he needs that money to get his car out of impound from when he got pulled over and went straight to jail 4 the child support.Then he would have to save to get an apartment.right now he is stuck trying to figure out weather he should keep helping home out if there is a possible chance of them getting back together or take his retirement check& face her in court for what will be half hers after its over. he could be homeless& jobless if it were not 4 me.
2007-03-28 06:06:19 · 24 answers · asked by Diamondbch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl, you are trying to start a relation or many relations with the wrong people. Do yourself a favor, and stop seeing them.
Don’t think it will be ok. Neither of them are good for you. You need to look for someone that is not only single but also a little more stable in his life. It seems you are falling for loosers, and wanted or not, you will end up also becoming a looser and I don’t think you want that in your life, do you?
Leave them, and try to become independent and just go out with friends, and see if you can find some nice guy that you can “hook up” with.
Good luck.
2007-03-28 06:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop both the losers, get yourself a couple of jobs to keep busy and take care of yourself. STOP being a user and being used. Make yourself happy and pay your own bills. Then go looking for a single man that also takes care of himself. Grow up!!!! Working two jobs till you get on your feet will not kill you. I did while I was pregnant and went back to work when she was only 8 days old . So , I know all about taking care of myself and family.
2007-03-28 06:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm honey you need to get some self help books on how to love yourself. because you dont. sorry but you can't possibly love yourself if you get yourself into these situations.
Your Perfect Right: A Guide to Assertive Living
Robert Alberti and Michael Emmons
and...
Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life : How to Finally, Really Grow Up
oh and becareful when you start to grow up but become very assertive and dont put up with crap anymore people will accuse you of being crazy and unstable. they'll just be shocked you are a new strong woman who wont take crap!! good luck!
2007-03-28 06:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i don't like judging but I must say that you are a human parasite. Inconsiderate, immature, immoral and don't think about consequences.
You need to have your head examined and get intensive therapy.
You obviously weren't taught morals as a child.
Put yourself in the wives situation....wouldn't you be pissed if some girl was meddling in your marriage?
You shouldn't be taking advantage of anyone....your "friend", "lovethang" you bed buddy....needs to get a job....and you need to get a life and stop using this other man.
Women like you are why men don't trust....it's men like them
that women suffer.
"he could be homeless& jobless if it were not 4 me."
assuming he screwed up when his wife found out about you....i'd say you need to do whatever it takes to help him get his life back.....don't think for a minute that you deserve a pat on the back...
Sick people in this country...do us all a favor.....DON'T BREED.
2007-03-28 06:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by tito_swave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your butt back in school and learn to become an independent woman instead of someones whore.
Leave the jail bird alone. If he went to jail for being a dead-beat dad, chances are you will be in the same predicament if you get pregnant by him.
There are plenty of single men out there, but they won't be attracted to someone that only uses people to get by in life.
2007-03-28 06:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what are you trying to say? Are you dating both of the married men? You need to grow up and think before you act. They both are just using you. If they loved and wanted to be with you they wouldn't be married or trying to work it out with their wifes. Think about it. No matter what you can do better.
2007-03-28 06:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by tls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already know what you need to do why are you adding all of this drama to it?
You can only help people so much before you have to step away. I don't think being in a relationship with someone should be based on you trying to help them better themselves. You need to move on & you know it. Just move on already.
2007-03-28 06:10:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you really attract the winners! What is your question? Do you really not know what to do? Dump these losers and spend with your son the time you'd usually spend spreading your legs for other women's husbands.
2007-03-28 06:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got yourself in a mess with 2 real losers. Leave them both........clean up your act. Find a single guy and work on yourself..........Quit trying to help these losers. They are using you.
2007-03-28 06:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by Felicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things must be getting a little crowded over there. I am assuming you are still with the boyfriend with no teeth. Right?
2007-03-28 06:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋