i would of loved to still be a virgin but it all started when i already thought just becasue my virginity was already tooken when i was 5 by 3 diffrent men i didnt even know. (email me 2 kno y) but when i turned 12. i was asked 2 have sex and i thought well whats the wait anyway. so since then i've been doing me. am i wrong for that? how was i suppose to feel? or think? i would of waited 2...
2007-03-28 06:06:16 · 16 answers · asked by tee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sorry to say but you just need counseling... that is some scary stuff... Good luck
2007-03-28 06:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by Megan Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tee............you were abused as a child and it is NOT your fault.My heart hurts for you.
At 12 yrs. old you were abused again and now at 17,I can feel the pain in your heart that you are carrying inside of you.
You really need to get help and get your mind straightened out to know that you are a valuable human being and you should be treated as such.
You need to stop letting people abuse you and start to respect yourself.You deserve to be respected in every way.
Please seek help from someone.Go to a minister or a school counsellor as they can get you going in the right direction or go to a professional.They will help you.
It will be hard for you to make the first step but once you do,you will realize that there is help there for you and you will be glad you did.
I don't know how religious you are but remember you are a child of God and he loves you.You are so very deserving of a better life than you've had.
You haven't mentioned family so I don't know where you stand with that.If you have a mother or family member who can help you and who you trust,go to them also.
I feel you are looking to be loved and so far things are not working out too well for you.Just know that a lot of people out here care about you and wish the best for you.
God Bless my dear and I will be praying for you.
2007-03-30 06:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is sad. some people believe that their virginity is gone when they permit/feel it is. Somewhat like a born-again virgin. It's understandable to be confused/disapointed/upset. In my oppinion you should not consider your virginity lost until you feel it is so and there are no confusion. Because their is a difference between having it 'taken" from you and obliging or "giving" it to someone you care about. I tried to email you but it said you couldn't. My email is perfect10123@yahoo.com. it seems like you are confused about what you are asking. Talking to people can not only help you, but you may be able to help girls who went/are going thru the same struggle.
<3 JCB
2007-03-28 06:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by chica</3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were abused and you need to have counselling, and you need to give up the guilt - it wasn't your fault, you were only a child and you don't have to give in anymore.
I would even go so far as saying you're still a virgin in the sense that you havn't willingly decided to have sex with someone of your own free will.
2007-03-28 06:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're serious about this, and you are worried, stop having sex now. You can see a counselor about the ways you've been sexually used since you were a child, and eventually you will heal and move on. If you don't get help, I think you're setting yourself up for a hard, painful life. You deserve better! Good luck, and seek help now.
2007-03-28 06:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Stephene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When those men did that to you when you were so young it was wrong and I dont believe you truly lost your virginity that day. I think that when you truly lose your virginity it is intentional and that this was something that you wanted. I think you should go see your colselor before you become premiscuous, pregnant, and HIV Positive:(
2007-03-28 10:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by !@#$%^&*()_+ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some therapy or you will never be able to have a good relationship with a man or woman whatever your into.
2007-03-31 15:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by RoxanneZG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds awful what you've been through but i don't completely understand what you're saying. I tried to email you but it says you don't allow email on your profile.
So here's my email address if you want to tell me more:
xmmsx@hotmail.co.uk
2007-03-28 06:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Curiousity killed the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are seventeen and you should be concerned with educating yourself and helping younger girls that also have been abused as children.Why don't you concern yourself with helping young girls.
2007-03-28 06:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by Student 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go see a consular.
2007-03-28 10:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by pageantbaby14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋