i think it was a one time thing but i want to know what i can do to prevent it from happening again ,but i dont want my partner to know
2007-03-28 06:02:36 · 19 answers · asked by bellybean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its a woman not a man...
and its easier said than done when it comes to dumping her
2007-03-28 06:23:54 · update #1
its a woman not a man...
and its easier said than done when it comes to dumping her
2007-03-28 06:24:23 · update #2
So you are Gay then??..........okay
Trust me on this, you can't keep her from cheating. If she wants to cheat she will do it, because she is selfish. She was selfish to do it the first time, she will do it again babe. Your relationship with her is already broken, the only thing I can think of is...Your going to have to tell her you know, and ask her if she wants to be with you, because you want to be with her. And if she wants to be with you, she has to show it, prove it, say it, and do it. Only if she is improving, if not then you have to let her go. Don't hold on to nothing that's broke. I do believe once a cheater, always a cheater. It's like a habit one has to grow out of...ya feel me
Trust me dumping someone aint that hard, especially if they are a looser...you just don't look back
2007-03-28 06:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by SexyBlackFasho 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whew. This is a toughy. So your partner doesn't know that you know? Hmm. Okay. The question is: Can you live with him knowing that you can't really trust him now? If you can answer yes to that, then you can salvage that relationship. You can't stop your partner from being unfaithful to you unless you've been doing something wrong and you're aware of it. Sometimes people do stupid things and they don't have a reason for it e.g. infidelity. Here's the next question: Do you honestly think your partner won't do it again? How do you know that they won't? Consider these things and maybe you can have your heart answer.
2007-03-28 06:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by Raingirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you allow the seed of deceit to prevail gal? It's actually all about you really. I'd like to concur with the rest "Once an cheater, always a cheater" but back to the about YOU aspect. Thing you can do is tag him and then discover you've given in to self-destructive paranoia and risk being labeled a "control freak" that's what you can do. Alternatively, you can play it equal with this liner: "Just remember Honey...What you can do, I can do too, just watch me...". Take him on a guilt trip if you bear to because honestly I don't really think cheaters are capable of resisting temptation.
It's about TRUST, once tested and betrayed, it's tough to be regained. They don't say "You can forgive but never forget" for nuthin'. Good luck!
2007-03-28 06:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's weird! What can you do without your partner not knowing? Sorry, but that's absurd. He's the one who's involved! and the one who's been unfaithful. That's like Bush trying to solve the war in Iraq by talking to the Mexican Pres!
You have to deal with him directly, because if he's a cheater he's going to be cheating with someone else in the future. The "other" is not necessarily to blame!
2007-03-28 06:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by forlove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't talk to your partner, you might risk the situation happening again. The only way to help the situation is open communication and honesty. You can't always protect your partner from having their feelings hurt. Talk to 'em, and reassure them that you are willing to make this relationship work.
2007-03-28 06:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by Rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For Gods sake! Cut the Dude loose, honey. That's just the ONE time you found out about. " I don't want my partner to know"??? How can you disrespect yourself like that. Get rid of the bum and find a real man. Godloveya.
2007-03-28 06:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't one thing you can do to ensure he's cheating will stop, unless you talk it out with him and let him know that you know he cheated. If he isn't sorry for it, then kick his butt to the curb. Always remember though, that as a general rule, that once you become a cheater you'll always remain a cheater.
2007-03-28 06:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you! Why would you wanna work it out?! Is your self-esteem that low?! You deserve so much better! Come on, if you were meant to be with this guy...he would never do anything to hurt you! I would definitely advise to NOT get back with him! You deserve nothing but the best and this guy obviously isn't it! Get out now and save yourself the stress, dilemma and emotional trauma later!
2007-03-28 06:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by batchick5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way for you to save the relationship, forgive and forget.
You can't keep him from cheating again, if he wants to he will and there is nothing you can do about it.
2007-03-28 06:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine working it out... if your over 35. If not, then count on it happening again and again and again.
Think about age vs. maturity. Think about your self-esteem. You're probably hot so don't you think you deserve and can get someone who is ONLY into you? Be good to yourself and let him go get an STD.
2007-03-28 06:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by Will H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋