Okay so i was adopted. My parents couldn't take care of me when i was born so my aunt and uncle adopted me. Now my real dad is in the hospital. My mom wants me to meet him. I want to meet him but i have no idea what to say or do. I'm only thirteen and i would meet him with my brother, although he's in Iraq so i have to meet my dad by myself. I don't know what to say to him. I'm only going to meet him for a short period time at his hospital bed. What should i say? Should i bring him flowers, or would that seem like i'm trying to hard. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this? please help!! i'm meeting him today! thanks so much=)
2007-03-28 06:02:13 · 10 answers · asked by Emmie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
alright, you are who you are, and dont change yourself because of this. just act normal and calm and try to be easy on him, let him examine you through and through, he will probobly want to do this, he has never met you before. Bring him flowers, that just shows that u have decency and are sympathetic. dont think that you are degrading yourself because you are being nice, and be glad you are getting this oppurtunity, i am 12 and my dad ran away when my mom was seven months pregnant and i have never met him, and even though i have heard bad and good things about him, i would love that oppurtunity. Be true to yourself and let him see the real you, good luck.
2007-03-28 06:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by charmedwitch94 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about LOVE, girl...so try and remember that. Also, you should be thankful that he realized early on that he might not be able to provide a good life for you, so he sent you out for adoption, where, it sounds like, you got some good parents and a better life. You don't KNOW how hard that probably was for him, but it was out of love that he did that. Now, it YOUR turn to show HIM love. Who knows? He just MIGHT be dying and this could be the last and only time ou ever see him...it will be a memory you'll never EVER forget....so, how do YOU want to make it? Make it something you'll feel good about. So, take him the flowers, tell him what you feel in your heart and don't have ANY EXPECTATIONS whatsoever...THAT way, whatever does happen won't let you down...cuz when we DO have expectations, NOBODY EVER lives up to them and we ALWAYS get our hearts broken. Show him how mature you are, rise above your feelings for the moment and show him the love, because, girl, in the end, Love is what sets us free! I BELIEVE IN YOU BIG TIME! GO 4 it! Be yourself...you ARE BEAUTIFUL!
2007-03-28 13:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by crazynays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him like you'vve known him your whole life. ITs nothing really. I haven't seen my dad in 8 years(if 15) and i finally go to see him maybe a year ago for the first time in 8 years. I talked to him like i knew him my whole life. Just be calm and talk. its normal that you are nervous. Don't be rude.
Ask him what he has been up to and tell him what you have been doin'? You can bring him flowers but i think he would be happy just too see you. Thats all you have to be. is calm and yourself. Good Luck!
2007-03-28 13:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Briann M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was adopted too. i met my birth mother a few years ago, although i was an adult with 2 children of my own when i did. try to relax and just be yourself. don't worry about to say because it will just come. am sorry to hear that you are meeting him for the first time under these circumstances. try to remember that he too is probably worrying about the same things you are right now. you'll be okay, just breathe and be you.
2007-03-28 13:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by Forgotten Ones 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and relax. Try not to be judgemental about the fact that he put you up for adoption. I met my real Father when I was 18 he had abandoned my mom and all of us kids. The conversation will come, just try not to force anything. i am sure that he will understand that you are nervous.
2007-03-28 13:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by godsfire44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still your father.
If he is sick bring him flowers..that's not trying to hard that is showing sympathy in someones time of need. Showing you care.
The conversation will flow. The words will come. Tell him your nervous. He will understand.
You will be fine.
He maybe a stranger but everyone does what they do for a reason.
Just be yourself.
2007-03-28 13:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by afj60 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have never been in this situation and i hope i never will (no offence). just be yourself and maybe bring him a gift like.... chocolates or even maybe flowers but dont be shy or scared. tell him more less about your life and get him to relate to yours!
2007-03-28 13:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by Just ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself! don't be nervous just think of it as meeting a new person. it's easy to get stressed thinking oh this is my dad and i have to impress him and i want him to like me. don't do that, he's just another person you're meeting today. just relax and be yourself.
2007-03-28 13:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you feel? are you excited to see him? do you want to see him?
do not bring flowers if you feel that you're forced to meet him. just be there. and go with the flow.
2007-03-28 13:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by patutch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well good luck and just relax
2007-03-28 13:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by Bebe.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋