should we stay together or not?

Question

We love each other so much. even said we would marry and run away together. weve loved each other since year 7 and not had the guts to tell each other. 3 years later in year 10 we finally got together. that was september 06. we dont argue and think exactly alike. we are the perfect couple BUT!!!

when we are together everything is great. but things seem too much to handle and we break up. (not because weve fallen out or anything)

then not so long later we realise that being friends isnt a good enough thrill. so we get back together.

ITS AN ENDLESS CYCLE!!!!!!!!

we realy do love each other but cant settle down what should we do.
between you and me. i want to keep them. :'(

Answer 1

living together is tough, too many problems raise up but you can get over them, just next time don't break up but face your problems together

Answer 2

Mmm, interesting that you use the word "thrill". I would suspect that the problem here is that one or other, or both, of you are not quite getting what you expected to out of the relationship.

There is no doubt that you like each other a lot and are very attracted to each other but somewhere along the line there seems to be an amount of frustration creeping into the relationship and I think this is what is causing the break ups.

There could be a number of reasons for this frustration. It could simply be that you are spending too much time together and this is causing you to take each other for granted. You actually begin to get fed up with each other because I dare say you see each other every day and your relationship is becoming a routine, but then when split up and you spend a little time apart you begin to realise how much you missed each other.

If this is what's hapening the best thing you can do is give each other a little space and dont let your relationship dominate your lives. Try not to see each other every single day, get some interests outside of your relationship and seperate from each other for periods of time and allow your relationship to breathe. Just don't wrap yourselves up in your relationship. Even relationships between brothers and sisters become strained when they spend too much time alone together. Get out together and socialise at least once a week, again this will allow you a break from the routine of always being together, oh , and talk to each other. If you are getting bored with the routine try to do something different together. If you think your girlfriend seems a little bored ask her what she would like to do. Variety is the spice of life, if you want your relationship to survive, you have to work at making it interesting, and you have to work at it together. Doing the same thing every day with the same person is not interesting.

All of this doesn't mean you don't love each other. I dare say you love each other very much, you are just not working hard enough to keep the love alive.

Good luck with it.

Answer 3

If you love each other why are you breaking up? How old are you that you need to run away and get married? If you were mature and loved each other you wouldn't break up. Sounds like you guys still need to grow up some before you make a commitment. I would let things cool down for a while, until you are older and things are not "too much to handle".

Answer 4

Well the whole idea of being together is to fight to love, respect, honor, etc. why all the breakup? if there is no reason then stay together or are you in it ust for the rush/thrill as you say for the chase? We all go thru our ups and downs sometime we talk it out sometimes we don't right away and let things in life cool down its all how you can handle it. Yeah life and love is crazy but we all in this with you. Good luck!

Answer 5

my suggestion is to live in seperate places and make dates and spend time together that way. i realize that u have known one another for quite some time now and know pretty much everything about one another, so when u know that ur pushing buttons, DONT!!, just walk away, cool down, take some time to yourself, ur not just doin it for you, but for your partner too. think about what they may be going through.

i would suggest to stay together if the both of you unconditionally love the other. which i think that there is more to the story than you're letting on, thats the reason the two of you split all the time. someone is afraid of commitment or being happy in life.

just my opinion.

Answer 6

Sounds like some behavioral issues, and some communication issues, hon. If you want to see what the cause of all this is, try a few sessions of counseling. You may find your problem(s) are quite easy to solve.... and you may also find that this will never really work.... In either case, you will be able to stop spinning your wheels, and learn to resolve your differences easily, or opt out of the relationship. either decision better than where you are now.................

Answer 7

YOU GUYS NEED TO TALK. FIND OUT WHAT EACH OTHER WANT OUT OFTHE RELATIONSHIP. THE BEST THINGS YOU GUYS DID WAS BE FRIENDS BEFOR YOU STARTING GOING OUT. THAT WHAT GOING TO HELP YOU SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS. YALL HAVE TO BE ON THE SAME PAGE AT THE SAME TIME. TALK. THE RELATIONSHIP WOULDNT BE A RELATIONSHIP WITH OUT THE UP AND DOWNS. WHEN YOU GUYS ARE DOWN THAT WILL PROVE IF YALL LOVE EACH OTHER TO GET BACK UP. THE RELATONSHIP IS ONLY STRONG IF THE PLAYER ARE STRONG TOGETHER.

Answer 8

Sounds like you need to make a decision.......live with the ups and downs of this relationship..........or get out. Personally, I would move on.........you dont want to say to yourself later in life how you wasted so much time with this person unable to commit.

Answer 9

Stop putting labels on things.
If you two love each other, then stop making things so complicated and just enjoy each others company. MAKE this work if she is the one that makes your day that much brighter.

Answer 10

Just ask yourself...is all this really worth it for her? or make a list of all the great things about her and your relationships and then all the downsides to it. Hope this helps=]