2007-03-28 05:58:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOVE... in its truest form, is unconditional.
That means NO MATTER WHAT.
Including cheating.
Its hard and ugly, but fogiveness (when genuine!!!) becomes more beautiful than anything else.
It is the deepest demonstration of love.
But "forgiving" does not mean you bring it up every argument for the next five years... I know several of both types of couples, those that have cheated and split, and those that have cheated and worked it through. I would say that 98% of those that work it through have stronger and deeper relationships than they did before... at least those who dont continually throw it in eachothers face.
You also would need to figure out the reason that the cheating happened at all... and address that problem appropriately.
2007-03-28 10:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all i feel it is the right and honorable thing to do . Forgiveness and love is a choice. It is much more honorable then bitterness and hate. taking the high road is the most honorable thing to do and you will be a better and not a bitter person for it. Forgiveness is also very healing and helps you to get past the pain of things. Bitterness and resentment on the other hand however is very destructive and tears you down inside and you feel so bad and down all the time and you usually dont get over things by hanging on to hate and unforgiveness. My pastor always says Unforgivfeness is the poison we drink while we wait for the other person to die. It means that bitterness destroys and kills us inside while he hate and wish the other person dead.
2007-03-28 06:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your feelings. If you really love this person and feel like you can totally and completely forgive them, meaning that you still have trust in the person and when they go out with friends you aren't going to wonder if they are where they say they are. Then you can make it work. You need to think of yourself. If you really love and care for them and they cheated and you feel like you can forgive and FORGET, what they did to you then you need to forgive them and move on. Remember that you can forgive someone, but that does not mean that you have to stay in the relationship.
2007-03-28 06:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say be very careful and to think about it really hard.... If that partner was unfaithful once, what will stop them from doing it again.... Plus the trust that was there will never be the same again... I would think it would be in the back of your head the whole time and just hurt you in the long run.....
2007-03-28 06:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mando 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if the person deserves forgiveness--true regret, takes responsibility for his/her actions,works to change. My mom got cheated on twice now by the same man and every time she forgives--When he blames her "you're not around enough" "we have a bad sex life" he does not regret what he did he only regrets getting caught. I feel like she is not honoring herself, she deserves better and stays with him out of fear of being alone not love that is dishonorable.
2007-03-28 06:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by I'm so cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to the one forgiving. And no it's not dishonourable.
2007-03-28 06:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that forgiveness is the purest form of love AS LONG AS it is taken in that spirit. Like love, forgiveness should not just be thrown around, like pearls before swine.
2007-03-28 06:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by forlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation and the individual.. Personally, I could not forgive the cheating......but I know alot of people who can. Most likely though the cheating will still go on......maybe not right away......but sometime it will prob. go on again. Weigh things out.......See if you can trust this person again ........and live with it.
2007-03-28 06:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by Felicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are to forgive. Everyone makes mistakes.. its the repeated ones we need to look out for.Look deep into the marriage and see why your partner would do this. maybe not spending enough time or what ever.. maybe this would help.Its worth it to try.
2007-03-28 06:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by shakannaglory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is the purest form of love. Nothing at all dishonorable about it. If you truly achieve this, my love, then you are truly blessed.
2007-03-28 06:03:12 · answer #10 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋