This is my dilema. I am almost 24 and still a virgin. I do believe in God and morals, but it's not necessarily that I am saving myself for marriage. I just want to make sure I totally love the person and vice versa. Therefore, I'm not ashamed of this, as it's been harder to say no than to just not care about myself all these years. I just worry that he will be turned off as soon as I tell him? What would you guys do?
2007-03-28 05:32:15 · 39 answers · asked by Callie B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey guys.. I never said he'd have to wait until we were married. Just when I feel it is right and that we are both serious and committed it would be fine. I just didn't know how to approach this, what it'd make him feel like?
2007-03-28 06:21:02 · update #1
You should be proud of this fact. I wouldn't worry about his reaction. You made this descion based on your morals and if he has a problem with it then that is his loss. He is not the right one for you. Don't compromise yourself to make someone else happy. I am proud of you and stance you have taken thus far in your life! Keep up the good morals! They are rare to find these days:)
2007-03-28 05:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jewells 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone is going to be turned off by this, to me, it is neither a plus or a minus. The only fear I would have is that you might not have a high sex drive, or at least a sex drive that matches his....and that can be a very real problem in marriage.
Just hope that whoever you end up with is NOT a virgin..nothing is more messy than two people bumbling around in bed the first time. Good luck
2007-03-28 05:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the guy who said men want virgins, for some reason there is still an ounce of purity to the female. Beings 27 years old, my girlfriend and I decided to call it quits after 11 years. I've been with her since she was 15 and I was 16. It seems like all the women my age have been around the block a few times, and there is just something about used property that is not pleasent to me. I am sure this will change after months of not getting any tang-tang.... but.... I'd tell him. Turned off, he probably won't be. However, if he finds out he won't have a chance at you for a while, he might not want to stick around. Guys typically have one thing on there mind....
in my opinion.
2007-03-28 05:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by SoulRebel79 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It wouldn't turn me off that you are a virgin, however it is not something I would be looking for either. I like a girl with experience, but I would be willing to train one too. The worry is that after doing just once or a few times, that you won't be willing to have sex often. Men often want it all the time, if that isn't a problem I doubt he will mind that you are currently a virgin.
2007-03-28 05:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you will have to worry. I have had male friends who were virgins until they got married. You will probably be better off finding a guy who is a virgin, or just a guy that will be aware and can handle it. These days, with many diseases, you are much better not having sex. I believe you don't have to tell the guy when you first meet, but later on, when you are dating, you'll know when to ask him the question.
2007-03-28 05:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex wife a a virgin when I met her at the age of 24. We dated for seven year and eventually got married. It ended in divorce 18 months later. I swore I would never date a virgin again. The next girl I casually dated for four years. When I was informed that she was a virgin at the age of 34 I almost had to look around for the candid camera! That relationship ended horribly with her attempting suicide in the end. Thankfully my wife was not a virgin when I met her. We are thrilled to be in each others lives.
2007-03-28 05:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly it would be more of a turn on than t a turn off. Guys like to know (or think) that they were the first, and if you are looking for the one that truly loves you, then it should not matter to him at all dont you think. I was a virgin till 23 and my first (and only) was my now wife before we were married.
2007-03-28 05:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Antonio A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Real man would respect that,and if it turns them off you know there just after 1 thing,that would be the goodies and not love that should come first before. If your 24 and a virgin congrats some respect that.
2007-03-28 05:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a big situation. If you respect yourself that much to hold onto something so valuable, then whoever you are seeing should respect your wishes too. I think you need to be honest about it and see how it plays out. Just don't think that your first time is going to magical and wonderful, I am sure for a lot of people, the first time sucked. But it does get better.
2007-03-28 05:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by biggdaddy1669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a turn off. I would prefer a woman who is secure in her sexuality and has an idea of what she likes. If we got married and then discovered we were not compatible in the bed I would have to either cheat on you or divorce you. Sex is a very enjoyable and important part of my life and I want a partner who feels the same.
2007-03-28 06:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋