I am right?

Question

hes phone ring I herd a woman's voice and I find out hes talking about picking her up from somewhere.as soon she talk to him. he said I "gtg . I 'll see u tomorrow" I was like why don't u see me today and who is SHE. he said its a HE. I said its SHE. whats going on. he said nothing my COWORKER ask me to give her ride. Said why she called u don't she have somebody Else he said no. and I said u only work we man he said no my other job I said oh. well u r here now so who u thin k is better me or her. he stand up and said WELL UR NOT EVEN LOOKING AT ME AND U IGNORING ME AND U DON'T GIVE A **** TO ME WHAT U WANT ME TO DO"the phone ring a gain and this time he vents to the balcony but I still can hear him telling her I cant hear I called u back. I said I want to u to be there for me but ur not . what kinda of man are u he left and closed the door in my face. I my heart is betting fast. I fell like hes cheatting on me. WHY ??!! we are getting marride in july . after 30 minits he called me

to apologyz. but it was too late I told him why are lief she is ur frend..I dont mind that . he said I didint pick nobady up and I am ggan go and sleep. I hing up. s he telling the truth??!!!

Answer 1

This situation is exactly why I don't answer my man's phone. This guy is a liar; he proved it by first denying that the person on the other end of the line was even a female. He shows all the signs; lying, avoiding and finally anger. You may never catch him in the act of fornication but it shouldn't have to come to that. If he's willing to lie to your face what is he capable of doing behind your back. Dump the lying loser and just be glad that you didn't marry him and found all this out later.

Answer 2

Ok first of all you need to proofread your questions cuz you're all over the place? Secondly, I think you need to assess your situation and your relationship. If you think he is cheating on you, then you don't trust him which is a major problem cuz trust is extremely important in a relationship. At first trust is being built up but if you guys are getting married in July, well, by the time you are ready to marry someone trust should really be sorta a finite thing - a given, a definate, something you don't even question anymore. If that's not the case, well then you guys are obviously not ready to get married. Trust is something that should be checked off the list before committing your life to be together. You could just be a jealous person, but nevertheless. I have a friend that is super jealous and it takes her a LONG time to totally truly trust someone especially someone she is going out with but eventually she does (it takes her longer that most people) cuz the person earned her trust. This guy obviously hasn't earned your trust and it also seems strange to me that at first he tells you this caller is a guy and then admits the person is a she. Then he's all being discreet and I don't know it all sounds fishy to me. If I were a guy and my girlfriend was always suspicious and jealous (and I'm sorry, deary, but you do sound like one of those girls), I would be like "Sweetheart, it's just a girl from work who needs a ride tomorrow to get to work so you have nothing to worry about. She's just a girl I know from work and I'm just giving her a ride and that's it. Cool?" But he seems like he's being all hiding sh*t and stuff. I don't know but I think you got a few things here that are reason enough that you guys might wanna postphone the wedding especially the whole trust issue which is first and foremost. Then it doesn't even matter if he's cheating (which I personally think he is). If you think he is, there are probably reasons why you think that way, so he probably is. Know what I'm sayin? Oh and please don't start doing this psycho crap of going through his things and spying on him, checking his cell phone, and sh*t like that. That's total psycho sh*t - don't reduce yourself to that. Be straight, be direct, be honest, and trust yourself at least and that feeling in your gut that something just ain't right. And if you are the paranoid type, well you got my back up that this is fishy so you gotta reason to be suspicious. Confront him calmly, rationally, intellectually (not like your crazy question which was seriously all over the place). Be like "Yo I know you're playin and I know there was a girl on the line, as you admitted, and I want the truth about who she is cuz I just don't buy that she's a coworker you are driving to work." (If it were then she don't need to be calling back and he don't need to be calling back but don't say this to him cuz that opens him up to giving you some excuse about why they need to relay on the phone back and forth like he gotta get her address and directions and blah blah).

Answer 3

Men don't understand what 'be there for me' means. You have to tell him exactly what you want. 'I really feel insecure when you give people rides and I haven't met them'. Or, 'I feel left out because I haven't met your friends'. Or even, 'I don't appreciate getting calls in the middle of the night'.
Give him something to act on so it's not coming across as vague or whiney. If that doesn't work, then you can concider the possibility that he's cheating.

Answer 4

investigate quietly, if he is seeing someone now, just think about you are doing marrying this person , he may not be honest and your life will be invested into pure lies. It may be nothing and you may have the jeolous bug. don't smother him but do investigate, get a friend to watch him for you and take a look at his phone records.
If its bothering you then you must know the truth......

Answer 5

I really wanted to help you with your problem but reading this just made me nervous. I understand the use of shorthand and all, however this was really hard to read. I hope you actually speak better than your typed here, where are all your plurals? Example: he stand up. proper: he stood up, or he stands up. OMG, your spelling is horrendous. Try to do better next time if you desire intelligent help.

Answer 6

The sitaution is Not who's right.. Sounds like he is all wrong for you and you him. Close the door on marriage before you find your self in divorce court. Do the right thing.right thing is what is best for you.you heart will let you know. Not your emotions.

Answer 7

He first said its a he and then its a she coworker. That means your proberly right and you might wanne postpone your marrige until your sure though!!!! just try to find some proof your right talk to his friends!!!

Answer 8

this is gealousy! everybody has experienced this! you should give him another chance and stay with the eyes on him. if you are going to marry you two must trust each other!

Answer 9

I think you made a typographical error.. Ok, maybe a few. Ohh, how little we learn in our time on earth...

Answer 10

i would suspect just because he lied at first and said he was talking to a guy. if they were friends i would expect him to admit to it