Should I be worried. She is the mother of his three children and they split up 8 years ago. I agree that it is good to stay friends but......
2007-03-28 05:24:31 · 32 answers · asked by Sarah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a very bad idea that she is his best friend..
He should not contact or see her at all except
as a function of sharing the common children..
2007-03-28 05:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Remaining friends after divorce is a blessing. But to be considered best friends could mean more. They were married, they once shared hopes, dreams and goals together and started a family together, they were in love once. The problem is so many people today get divorced before really trying to repair their marriage and then down the road regret the divorce or think about what might have been if they had tried harder.
I would be worried as well. Sadly tere is nothing you can do but tell him how it makes you feel and then choose wether or not you can live with this.
2007-03-28 07:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can;t help how you feel but I am still freinds with my ex -wife. After all in my case we have three kids together and spent 11 years together. We just took a bit of time (some of it very painful) in getting to the point where we are freinds.
If there are kids involved it is usally a good thing that the parents are not fighting, it is hard to deal with though. You just have to keep in mind that she is an ex and you are here!
2007-03-28 05:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by chris_xtz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish that you said a little more to answer your question. So am going to play by ear that your not marry to this man.If that the case you have a choice right now not to except it. He telling you from jump street that's how it is, and it's going to stay that way. The ex just might be his best friend and there nothing you can do about that. Keep in mind, best friends talk about everything, most of the time. Your Private life with him, she going to know about it, you best believe that. So if your not married to him you need to really think can you live with that. Now on the other hand if your married to him and your complaining about his ex being his best friend in all, and you knew his relationship with the ex, you got a choice to make right now, before you have kids with this man, to get out or if you have kids with him you need to stay where you are. And if again if your not marry just yet to this man and if some reason you think after you marry him he going to cut all ties with his ex except when it comes to the kids, you better think again, because that not going to happen.You know up front his ex and him are good friends and to top it all off he's telling you his ex is his best friend. And your not going to change that, so don't try. And every time you do the ex is going to know about, every time you fight, argue with him , the ex is going to know, every time you don't clean the house right the ex is going to know about it, can you live like that? read ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger
2007-03-28 05:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes his best friend why did they split up in the first place.> Agree he has to see the children but having an ex as a best friend doesnt ring true to me
2007-03-28 05:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it doesn't HAVE to be a problem. I know a woman who divorced her husband of 15 years and 4 children, they each remarried, and they are model ex's. Best of friends.
I think they are the rarity though. The problem always is that there will always be SOMETHING between these two - they connected before and they easily could again. They know how to make each other happy, sad, and they know how to get into each other's pants and exactly what to do once they are in there. THAT is the biggest threat.
I would say trust, but they really don't need to be ULTRA-close friends....
2007-03-28 05:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is more common than you think...and with time, you will become his best friend. Don't worry about this. Be glad that he is stable, cares for his kids, and doesn't cross people off his list when relationships end. IF he treats his ex like this, think how well he will treat you! Very few "ex" people get back together....it never works. Good luck
2007-03-28 05:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is his best friend.You had better leave things alone.I know that everyone thinks that their spouse has to be their best friend.And in a perfect world this would be true.But not all couples are lucky enough to have a relationship like that.It has been 8 years and I am sure if she wanted to be back with him she would have done it by now.Unless you are sure they are doing something that qualifies has more than just friendly.I suggest you stay out of it unless you want ot push him away.
2007-03-28 08:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a bit worried if they are best friends, however if they have been split for 8 years you are probably fine.
2007-03-28 05:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be concerned. If it's been 8 years then it's over and they are just friends.
If he is a good guy and he treats you well then I would appreciate that you won't have to deal with a crazy ex wife trying to split you up.
2007-03-28 06:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His x wife is nothing to worry about really, the have to be friends in order to raise the kids but that it. If he didn/t love you he wouldn't be there. I wouldn't worry to much but stay active in what they do and interested in his children and everything will workout fine. Take care Heather
2007-03-28 05:29:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋