ok around xmas time i liked this boy who wasnt gay, i told some1 and then they told people and then he found out. when he first found out he was really nice to me and said we could still be friends but he wasnt gay so he didnt like me like that. well evreything was going fine the ppl that knew were either nice to me about it or have forgotten about it, but latley the boy i liked has been being really mean about it. he has been sayin that i stare at him all the time and stuff. other ppl are noticing it as well. what should i do? why is he doing this now and why three months after it happened??
2007-03-28 05:20:40 · 5 answers · asked by billy :) 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
yea i did ask it but there are different people on now and usally after a question id so old it gets far less awnsers, this is really bothering me
btw i did try talking to him
2007-03-28 05:29:50 · update #1
Its hard when your in a situation like that. Ask him why he is being like that and if it continues i would suggest you break ties with him. Friends like that are not friends at all really. He should be able to accept you for who you are.
2007-03-28 05:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by Ruth D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to stay friends with someone you have feeling towards. You may not notice, but you probably showing interest towards him more than he desires. Sounds like he is pretty open minded and didn’t mind at first that you admiring him. May be something changed in his life or someone made a comment? You should ask your self if you still like him. If yes, it may be better to limit your exposure to him for some time. If not, confront him and told him that you are his friend and he should tell you what makes him uncomfortable. You wouldn’t want anyone to impose on you, so don’t do it to others.
It is most difficult for gay to have straight friends. You may be confused why you like this person – just as a friend or more. The same is for man to be friends with female.
My suggestion for the future – don’t expose your feeling to your surrounding, may be only to your close friends if you trust them. It is hard but it will prevent what happened with you from happening again, rumors can hurt.
As far as your straight friend – confront him once and for all, regardless what you feel. It will prevent any misunderstanding and future pain. Put it behind you and move on. Ask him what you have done that made him feel uncomfortable and promise not to do it again. If you still like him, this is the unfortunate that he does not like you back but move on. Time will help you to. It happens with straight or gay people – they may like or love someone, and this someone may not like them back. It may take time to find someone.
Unfortunately, you can’t control who you like. But you are in control of your acts. What always helped me - a true friend you trust, someone who can listen to YOU. They may not have suggestions but they will give you support and comfort.
I hope it helps. Good luck!
2007-03-28 12:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Beef Stroganoff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that he may be experiencing some of the same feelings toward you or toward guys in general, but doesn't want to admit it to himself. He may never come around, so don't get your hopes up or change the way you act around him, but it would explain his behavior. Or, he's been hanging around bigots that he's trying to impress, in which case, you may be better off without him around you.
2007-03-28 13:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by kena2mi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already asked this question.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Amc5HpG_1UFyrsMKdXTRSUzty6IX?qid=20070328072420AAmK78y&show=7#profile-info-a16f94c8301e3f67f829333584bdadd3aa
Stop wasting people's time with a redundant question.
2007-03-28 12:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you ask this a little while ago.
2007-03-28 12:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by ron s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋