For any woman that has gone through labor??

Question

How many of you were yelling at your husbands? Have any of you just wanted your mother, and your husband to just leave you alone while in labor? i just wanted to know because my feelings right now are that i want him by my side the whole time ( will my feelings change during labor?? and that i won't get mad but i haven't been through labor yet so i don't know. just wondering how other labor s have gone. and if you do get mad at your husband why is it?? Thanks for the info!!

Answer 1

i got upset at my husband during labor with my oldest dr...he kept making jokes, trying to make the atmosphere light...that's what he does when he is nervous. i was NOT amused! LOL what part of labor is FUNNY?! but all in all i was glad he was there. he was a real champ with the next tho. i would just WARN him ahead of time that if he thinks you are mean and moodswingy NOW...it will be SOOO much worse when you are in labor, but to not have him take it personally. you REALLY DO want him there, but you have NO idea what you will be like when that time comes. you may want to appoligise in advance. :) and not ALL labors are like that anyway. good luck to you and hopefully your hubby will understand however your labor is like!

Answer 2

Yes, I would have liked my mother there but she'd been dead for 8 years then, so she was there, but not exactly in the way I would have liked.

Yes, I did yell at my husband at one point when it was about 3 in the morning and I was high on Demerol and something else, but I was still feeling the contractions and even through that, I could still hear him snoring. I thought he should have been a little more concerned than that. But I didn't blame him for getting me in that position since I was inseminated and so, we went after it together. He explained, first, that he had worked all day, which made me even angrier, but then he told me that he figured that the doctor and nurses were taking good care of me and that he was confident that nothing would bad would happen. I understood that because I've experienced that myself with my mom.

Really, you don't know how you're going to be during labor but I was very glad my husband was there even though, toward the end, I didn't even realize he was there! lol

Answer 3

I don't remember getting mad, really. I was annoyed at him, but only infrequently -- there were a few points where he was unsure about what to do or what I needed, and I was saying to myself, "geez, do I really need to be making him feel better right now?" I used the classic "you did this to me, you *******" line, but laughed while saying it -- I needed get him to lighten up :-)

Have him by your side, with the understanding that he will do anything you ask, including leaving you alone for a few minutes if necessary. Remind him that you're going to be going through a pretty rough experience, so anything negative you might say doesn't really mean anything and you still love him and are very grateful he's helping you with this -- getting mad (if it happens) is just an outlet for the emotional and physical experiences you're going through in labor. The emotional support is incredibly helpful, the physical support is great too (backrubs!), and it's a wonderful way to bond during an experience neither of you will forget.

Answer 4

I ONLY wanted my husband! My mother and mother-in-law were with us through most of the early labor, but left for exams and when I was in hard labor. But they were doing so many exams at the end because my son changed position on the way out. They had to push him back up and the do a c-section. But I never yelled or screamed. The breathing exercises work! I am small framed and my son was 9lbs., so everyone just knew I would be violent and mean, but I wasn't. It hurt like crazy, but I didn't want my husband to feel like he was to blame for it, especially since we were having so much trouble getting our son out! Even he was surprised by the whole experience and at the end he was the first one to hold our son and introduce him to the 32 people waiting outside the delivery room!

Answer 5

I never said anything wrong to my husband, and never got mad. I didn't yell at anyone. I just laid there and tried to relax. I found that if i truly tried to relax, instead of being tense with the contractions, that they weren't as bad. The more tense you are, the worse they feel. So I was calm as a bug while I was in labor. Yes the pain gets kind of intense towards the end but trust me, stay relaxed. Even when a contraction comes on, don't tense up to it. It just makes it worse. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

Probably will change. I wanted my husband there too and when I was going through labor I started screaming at him and telling him it was his fault. On both times, and I have no idea why I did that. But I was mad at him. And the second time I went through labor I wanted my other child. And I have no idea why. But I have never wanted my mother.

Answer 7

Most of the time women that do yell at their husbands do it because they are in pain and he is the closest one to her. Remember you will be hormonal and probably a bit nervous, but your husband is there to help (even though they can be OVERBEARING at times). Discuss with your husband ahead of time how you want him to help. You might change your mind during labor but at least he will have an idea of what you think you need. Don't worry, you'll be fine. Labor is a mind game, you have to convince yourself you will be in control. Good luck!

Answer 8

my husband was there for me with all three of mine. My growling at him happened after the birth of my first and during the whole 9 mo. with the last two. As far as not wanting him there and getting mad at him I think it depends on how hard your labor is. I know my last was a duzy. She was 8 lbs and 8oz. and coming very fast. She put me thru hell. When I looked up at my husband to curse him and tell him how much it was his fault, I saw a tear roll down his cheek, at that point I couldn't be angry at him. I told him about it later and we both laughed about it. Anyway, the poor guy had all my morning sickness and all with all three of mine. I think you will be alright just keep in mind that he loves you and he needs to suffer through the whole thing with you. He deserves the right to be there when his child comes into the world. I think it creates a stronger bond between the two of them, and he will appreciate what you have given him even more. Good Luck!

Answer 9

My wonderful husband was there during labor, and tried to comfort me and hold my hand the entire time. I wasn't angry at him in the slightest, but I couldn't stand to be touched or talked to. I was in my own little world and needed peace and quiet to get through it. Every woman is different. You may love having them there to comfort you and aid you. However, if you're not loving it, just nicely tell them to back off. I kept telling my husband, "I can't talk to you right now. Don't touch me right now," through the whole process. He was very sweet about it though. Good luck to you!! It's going to be a beautiful thing.

Answer 10

I was more upset with the pain to even notice anyone else that was in the room. My fiance and mom where there with me while i was in labor but i slept have the time so i wasn't yelling at anyone. I was never rude to my fiance, he was very understanding when i cried so did he. It's just as hard for everyone else as it is you because all they can do is watch and fell completely helpless.
When it was time to push my mom left the room, at first i wanted her to stay but once it came down to the real deal i only wanted my fiance with me, i didn't want my mom seeing my stuff!
For some people is a very personal moment between the couple but for others they would rather have their entire family's in the room. Once it comes time then you can decide who stays with you but one things for sure i would never chose my mom over my fiance since he's the father and the love of my life, he gives me comfort that my mom never could.
Do what's best for you:)