My mom is worried about my 19 yr old sister having sex w/her bf?

Question

My mom says that she always comes home late and suspects that they are having sex. I asked my sis and she said nothing is going on, she's late because he lives far and she has to drop him off after the movie or whatever. I understand my mom has rules in her house, but i also understand what a drag my mom can be, she made my life a living hell and made me hate her because she would bother me out of the blue. Since she is constantly accusing my sis of sex and my sis is tired of it. My mom is super conservative, she even told my sis the night is from the devil! lol i know. She caught them sleepin in the sofa with the lights off, literally they were sleeping. How can i make my mom understand to quit bugging her or what kind of comfort can i give my mom. She suspects many things but she is also wrong sometimes. I told her my sis is 19 and already knows the consequences of many things, i told her to leave her alone but she keeps bringing out the rule book

I mean my sis is an adult, yes she is living at home but my mom nags her a lot. My mom can be super overwhelming when it comes to sex. She's no saint her self and i understand that my sis needs to obay her but my mom won't stop and worries 2 much, she's going through menopause. My sister's bf does nothing all day, literally, he is 19 no job no school and always has money. MY sis knows what he is doing..... Is there anything I can do. I dont know how to help my mom. She gets on my neves wheen she starts crying over my sister being late or that she has that bf

Answer 1

It really depends. She is a legal adult. If your sister is ready for the consequences and has a good head on her shoulders, then she should be fine. Tell her to tell your mom that it's a natural part of life and if you love the person, then it has to happen sometime.

Answer 2

well first...although your sister bf may be bad for her....you guys cant tell her who 2 date! 19 is an extremely fragile age...shes on a thin line of being ad adult and a kid....and she must care so what about him if hes even an issue...so if i were you ...i wouldnt tell her not 2 date him anymore because im sure you have already expressed that to her...as far as your mom, you delt with her so your sister /may have 2 just chukc itup like you did nad deal with her...and since your obviously not living with them ..why dont you invite your sister to come live with you ( since your so concerned that is)????
hope this helps ...and all gets better!

Answer 3

I agree with the first answer. If your sister would move out, your mom would have no say in what she does. Shoot she shouldn't have a say anyways unless your sis is sleeping with her boyfriend in your mother's home.

Answer 4

Legally, you sister is an adult, so therefore what she does is nobody's business. Sounds like your mother is just afraid to let her be an adult and make the decisions that come a long with that. What an adult does with their body is their choice, no one has the right to question that

Answer 5

Your mom needs to get a grip and your sister needs to move the hell out. I hate parents like your mom. Sorry. But that's my answer. MOVE OUT!

Answer 6

Your sister is an adult, so if she is having sex, it isn't your moms business. But, maybe she should move out?
Anyways, I can see why she wouldn't want them to have sex in her house, but if they are somewhere else it is none of her business.

Answer 7

Your sister should move out if she's sick of being nagged.

But it really is none of your buisness - stay out of it and tell your mom that you aren't involved in this if she starts buggin you about it.

Answer 8

Well shes 19 and can do what she wants tell her to move in with him

Answer 9

Sounds like your sister needs to move out.

Answer 10

tell her your sis is a grown woman