I am 19 years old. 51/2 pregnant. i am not with the baby's father. sometimes he comes around but that is usually only a cover up to get sex. we used to be madly in love. not no more he treats me like crap. and disrespects me. i am still in love him. is there any way i can make it work. or should i give up. it's just i think about him all the time. even though he treats me like crap. i cry all the time. and can barely sleep or eat. i been going threw this for 4monts now. what should i do? somebody please help me.
2007-03-28 04:58:55 · 10 answers · asked by Yumyum 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Why would you want to be with someone who treats you like crap? Have some respect for yourself. Its not even about you anymore, its about that little baby growing inside of you. Forget about him, if he treats you badly, do you want that for your baby?
2007-03-28 05:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen carefully! Although God did make man for woman and woman for man, He also gave us a brain.Continue to love this man if you want to but it is time for you to grow up and move on. You have a precious life as your #1 priority. If he wants to be a part of that he will grow up and move with you into an adult relationship. If not, shake it off and RISE UP!
You do not need any other human being to complete your life. You were created complete. It is when we look to others to be your "rock" that you are often disappointed. There is more to you than a body now and then. By allowing him to use you in this way you are telling him that it's ok because that is all you are. You don't really believe that , now do you? When you believe that you are more, that is when you become more! God bless you and that precious child.
2007-03-28 12:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with someone who treats you terribly?? You said it yourself he disrespects you. I know he will be hard to get over but your going to have to. Your putting your life in danger by not eating or sleeping. Maybe you should try to go to a therapist. They can help you sort out your life and get it back on track. I'm positive if you see a therapist you will be happier and healthier!! Also not eating or sleeping can hurt your baby. Best of luck. Oh and let that loser of a boyfriend go!!!
2007-03-28 12:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately most men bail when the woman gets pregnant anymore. you can do it just fine on your own. you dont need him to validate who you are or what kind of mother you will be. first stop letting him have his booty calls. tell him that he has done enough and that you dont want a part time man. start eating that is key you need to make sure that the baby is growing strong. you might want to go to a family memeber or friend that you trust and tell them that you need a sounding board to help you figure your feelings out. if you dont have someone you trust that much look for a psychologist. they are real good at listening and helping you put things in perspective. good luck and enjoy being pregnant. you can do it
2007-03-28 12:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by wlfbelcher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your letting him take advantage of you. If he's only coming around for sex knowing that your pregnant with his baby and then leaving you alone again than he's a complete loser and needs a reality check. Men only take advantage if you let them. If he wants to be in your life than he'll have to get his mess straight, it's not worth putting yourself through hell, no man is worth that.
If he's been doing this for months than what makes you think he'll change? Most men do once they realize your carrying their child. Think about your baby and leave him alone, your better off without the drama and extra stress in your life.
2007-03-28 12:15:56 · answer #5 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off...congrats on your bundle of joy! ...2nd...dont have sex with him @ all (im sure that MAY be difficult) ,...you have 2 realize that your about to becomes someones mother and you arent going to have time 2 be hurting over him...cut him off completely with YOU...never keep him away from the baby though...let him no that he can definately be apart of the childs life and NEVEr take it away from him...if your going to need child support 2 guaranteed moneyor something from him you can also let him no that...but just try not 2 stress!
motherhood is a terrfic part of life and something every women look forward to---be happy! pray!...best wishes to you!!!!!!!
and remember : worse comes 2 worse; your not the first single , young parent 2 struggle...you' can make it!
p.s people like the ones above are always going 2 judge..dont stresS!
2007-03-28 12:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by somebodysmamasoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your responsibility now needs to be to your baby and yourself. If he treats you like crap what do you expect. Nothing will change. That's just the way it is. Take care of you and that little one and get him out of your life! Good luck
2007-03-28 12:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by First Time Momma 7/26/07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your baby daddy is real imature. your first mistake is giving in and continuing to have sex with him. he thinks that because your preg with his baby he can come get the pussy when ever he wants. he is probable sleeping with othe females and you are putting yourself and your baby at risk for STDs. if he treats you like crap now, after the baby is born it May OR MAY not get worse. do you want to expose your child to all the fighting and abuse. although it takes 2 to make a baby, mothers are the sole protectors of their children. take it from someone who has been there and done that. be FIRM with him. tell him if you want to come and see me you need to stat bringing over supplies for our child. anything to start getting things in order for the birth. if he cant provide: oh well honey i dont have time for you.... all men love a challenge in women. start avoiding him at all cost. no phone calls, sorry i cant see you right now im busy focusing on my baby. give him his space and time to realize that he is either going to be apart of this childs life or not. if not me and mines will be alright without you...another thing you need to realize is this stress that he is causing you is not good for the baby. the mental state of a mother does effect the child. do you want your baby to come out all ****** up with bad nerves and even other mental issues????be firm with him and consistent and believe in yourself, tell that buster to hit the road jack.......good luck.....
2007-04-01 11:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by lumpkinstonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when the baby is born it will bring you closer together.
good luck! God bless!
2007-03-28 12:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You answered your own question....You deserve a whole lot better.
2007-03-28 12:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by lyndell v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋