My wife says sex once a month is plenty....and if she does it more then its not special..........does that make sense??? its driving me crazy!!
2007-03-28 04:58:24 · 16 answers · asked by Mike N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well yes it makes sense, but no it's not right. Women aren't like men when it comes to sex. But personally, the more we have sex in our marriage, the more I feel loved and vice versa, even if it's not quite "making love."
That intimacy is a big part of our relationship. And your wife should understand that it's important. Also, I've been pregnant and i can tell you tehre have been COUNTLESS times I have not felt like having sex... but when you're married it's not about you... sometimes I've had sex when he wanted to even when I didn't at first...
It's not about me. It's not about your wife. It's about two people. You need to talk to her, respectfully, and tell her that sex isn't the only thing you want from her, but you do need it more than she does. (Men actually do).
2007-03-28 05:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think her excuse is B.S. Sex is always special when it's with someone you love, especially your husband. I don't believe it's because she doesn't love you, sex is just not important to her. She could do with out it and you can't. She needs to understand that you are a man, and you have needs. And you need to understand that she doesn't want to do it 3 times a week. Maybe try mixing it up in the bedroom. You both have to come to an understanding and compromise. Sex is a very important part of a healthy marriage.
2007-03-28 05:07:41 · answer #2 · answered by kileigh1076 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way normal is 3-4 times a week for married couples LOL when you add kids age work and bs emotional stuff girls want you dont get anything but like once a month. 36m here wife is 40F 2 kids 9&10 once a month is my average here. I have my doubts and i got it 1-2 times a week when single and it was CHEAPER than my once a month now.
2014-07-09 20:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Douglas B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she satisfied with your sex life? Most women I know who feel that way about sex, don't like it all that much, and feel their husbands are just out for what they want, and that's it. I know women who have been married for YEARS, and can count the number of times they've had an orgasm on 1 hand. So that would be my first thought, maybe work on pleasing her more, because if she likes it, she'll want it more than once a month!! I promise you that!
2007-03-28 05:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As it should, it is crazy. I don't think once a day is enough. The relationship I'm in now is long distance so we have to wait until the weekend (if that) just to see each other, but believe me, it is made up for....You might want to do a little investigating; women enjoy sex just as much as men do. Don't let us fool you.
2007-03-28 05:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3-4 times a week national average??? Not a chance!! Married people with kids and jobs are not having sex 3-4 times a week. Im married, tons of married friends. Trust me NONE of them have sex that much! NONE
2015-12-17 07:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by luke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is maybe all she needs but you both need to talk more about this its not good for you or your relationship this is one way to draw each other closer to show love affection and passion ;everybody is different it would be tough but a visit to the doctor maybe in order watch out how you bring that up !
maybe change it to add oral sex in the mix .
Walk with gentleness and love but be open and more taking
2007-03-28 05:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Duck / Deer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be enough for her, but not you.
Think of something she likes everyday, but doesn't need.
Ask her if it's ok if she were limited to this enjoyable optional activity or pleasure to only once per month?
So, she may never want sex more than once per month, but that doesn't mean that you SHOULD only want it once per month as well.
Since she is your only legitimate source in marriage, what is her solution to this serious problem?
2007-03-28 05:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That may be normal for her. Don't let it drive you crazy, talk to her about it. Or just try to be more romantic with her, then it will be special.
2007-03-28 05:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by proud_mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is she? is she stressed? does she work alot? well if there is no reason behind it but what you said than maybe she is getting it somewhere else not normal to me I'm 27 stressed and work 60 hrs a week and i still want it at least 3-4 times a week
2007-03-28 05:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋