I just received a phone call from a friend congratulating me on my pregnancy. The only people we have told so far are my parents, my in-laws and my brother. I asked them all to keep it quiet for a week or two to let the danger period pass (in terms of miscarriages, etc), but also so that we could tell all our immediate family before our friends. My mother has been broadcasting the news far and wide, and now some people (that we wanted to tell face to face) know before our other siblings. I feel like they have stolen something that is so special for my hubby and I (being able to tell people the big news ourselves). This is our first child. Am I justified in being p'd off about my mother telling everyone or is it just pregnancy and it's wonderful emotional roller coaster?
2007-03-28 04:58:06 · 12 answers · asked by lulu101 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are right. Not only did your mother steal away your big moment, but she betrayed your trust as well. You need to tell her how you feel. Tell her that her selfishness has cost you the joy of spreading your own news. I'm so sorry for what happened. But, congratulations! You must be so excited!
2007-03-28 05:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom did the same thing, fortunately it was only to one person, but an important person that I would have liked to have told none the less. When I asked my mom why she would tell her when I specifically asked her not to tell anyone, she said that she just got so excited. She told me that it was her news too because this was her first grandchild. She apologized and realized that she was wrong, but it made me realize that my husband and I weren't the only ones with news to tell. So while you have a right to be upset, and I suggest you talk to your mom about this, try and understand how ecstatic she must be about this. Good luck and congratulations
2007-03-28 05:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by karijay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom did that to me too. See told all of my brothers and sisters and I felt like something was taken away from me. Don't be to mad at your Mom though, she is probably excited. Do tell her though that you feel that she has over stepped her boundaries and to not tell anyone else. You missed out on seeing the happiness on people's faces and the congats that they would have given you. So tell her to stop. I can't wait until I am pregnant again, so I can have the honor of telling people. I think I will tell my brothers and sisters first and then tell my Mom :)
2007-03-28 05:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'd be ticked too! but check out what happend to us ..
My sister-in-law (her husband and my husband are brothers) just had a baby boy in Sept. and our baby is due in July (they'll be 10 months apart) ..
Well, she got all the attention for her baby .. now she's trying to suck the attention from ours!
My husband and I went in @ 18 weeks to find out if we were having a boy or a girl .. and found out it was a BOY!
I called my parents .. and then called my hubby's parents and grandma to tell them the news. My mom was home but his parents and grandmother were not ..
So, after trying a few times .. we were going to wait a couple hours and call them back.
1 hour later we get a call from his grandma and his mom, saying, Oh Jenny (my sister in law) called and said you guys were having a boy, CONGRATULATIONS!
ugh! I was so flustered!!! that was OUR big news!! NOT hers!! I was disgruntled for a week .. and actually still AM!!
But, I figured .. oh well, I'm just happy I have a perfect little boy in there .. and thats what is really important :)
congrats to you! and God bless! :)
2007-03-28 05:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to be angry.
I also wanted to wait to tell people myself. My boyfriend's siblings told half of their friends before I had said anything to any of my friends. I was being congratulated by people I had barely met and hated it, especially since I wanted to wait until after my first trimester was over.
On the bright side, you can look at it as they're super excited for the baby too.
2007-03-28 05:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset. Your mother is just very excited about the big news and wants to share it with the world. It is your big news to share though so just talk with your mother and tell her you understand why she hasnt been so quiet about it and you appreciate her excitement but explain to her that it would make you feel better to tell everyone yourself.
2007-03-28 05:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by phirephaerie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, I would say that you have every right to be mad about what your mom is doing. You specifically asked her not to tell people until a certain time and she just flat out ignored your wishes. I understand that she is excited about becoming a grandma and she should be but she should also respect your wishes and let you share the happy news until you give her the go ahead to shout it from the rooftops.
2007-03-28 05:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be upset but sometimes family is so excited for that they can't keep their mouths shut, so just explain to your mom how that made you feel and how you feel you and your husband should have been able to break the great to everyone and not her. Congrats
2007-03-28 05:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is probably just overly excited. However, this is your news to share, not hers. Talk to her and ask her not to tell anyone, that you were looking forward to it.
2007-03-28 05:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be p-od as well. That was your news to tell not hers. I mean sure she's excited and everything but she didn't respect your wishes, which is wrong.
2007-03-28 05:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by momof4jdak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋