Circumcision?

Question

i had my boy done on Monday and i feel terribles putting him threw that. Has anyone had there child done and what was there child like after for the next couple of days.

Answer 1

i think that you did the right thing for your child. And please don't listern to half of what these people are saying. As his parent you knew the right thing to do for your son.

And the people that are given her a hard time, what gives you the right???? If that was your child wouldn't you want the best for him?? Of course you would. And you say he should have the right to decided for himself yes but by then it might be to late. As someone said it reduces AIDS by 60% come on is that not worth it?? YES would be my answer.

And did you ever stop to think that this might be in the boys religion to do this?? My answer would be NO.

I think you have done the right thing.....Never stop doing things for your child. Well done for being a good parent!!!!

Answer 2

I can see that you wanted what's best for your son. I live in the US, where is used to be common. Now, circumcision rate is 50% as of 2006 and has been steadily going down since the 1970s when it used to be 90%.
I also noticed that a lot of answer are criticizing you, but that's because most of them are from Europe, a place that rarely circumcises. They really DO know something we don't and have a better sex education than us in the US, but that's changing. We're becoming less biased in this shunned subject.
Circumcision may or may not hurt with aneisesia. You can't tell, even if he's not crying. Babies react differently to pain, but do feel it. I'm sure he'll be fine in a few weeks if he is crying. It's something he'll have to get used to. So, don't worry.
The only thing is that it was his body. He could have had the option himself, don't you think? But, don't worry. He'll grow up fine if you raise him right.

On a side note, circumcision isn't cleaner. People say that because their own sex education was biased. We used to think that the bacteria in the smegma was harmful, but really it serves as lubricant in during intercourse and fights off infection. Yes, bacteria is used to fight off infection. What do you think Penicillin is?
Teaching your son how to clean himself and taking on safe sex practices would have had the same effect of circumcision in preventing STD's and AIDS. You can also wear a condom. I heard that really helps dramatically!!!
If you have to choose in the future to circumcise, do some research. Here's one other thing that people thought circumcision was healthier. It helped against urinary tract infection by 60%, but the cases of UTI is only .09%, very rare. Other and all possibilites of problems concerning the foreskin is 2-5% of the cases of intact patients, but are easily remedied with antibiotics and health care. The problems that are recorded in circumcision, including bleeding, infection and death, is also around 5% of the cases. This shows that it even though circumcision does has benifites, it isn't really necessary in today's world.
Don't feel bad for doing what you thought was best at the time. If you educate him and teaching him properly about these sorts of things, he won't hold it against you, I don't think. That isn't the case with me and my parents, as they circumcised me. In my personal case, I became at ease about this topic and they chose to pay for my restoration when I was old enough to make the decision. Of course, that's more surgury, something he might avoid like I did.

Answer 3

If I was a doctor collecting the money for the operation, I would cheer you.

As a man, I can't condone the mutilation of a perfectly perfect penis. Circumcision is hardly ever needed, and deprives a male of many nerves that make sex more enjoyable.

If I had my way, mothers would NOT be able to make this choice for their sons. I would pass laws that only a man can sign the order for the operation. It puts the baby in pain, and is NOT necessary.

The only people who are for circumcision, are women who don't know better, or men who are already mutilated and want the rest of the world to have desensitized penis' like they have.

Answer 4

I would not get it done unless it was to cure a medical illness. A lot of people have it done just through convention but really it's like when in Imperial China women used to have their feet bound to make them tiny (at the time people claimed there were supposed medical benefits to that too).
My neighbour got her son done and he has really angry and aggressive for the next month or so. Then again you can't really blame him.

Answer 5

My son was circumcised when he was 8 due an extremely tight foreskin which was causing him discomfort. He was poorly for over about 10 days and because of the pain. wore nothing more than a huge t-shirt all the time.

We had anaesthetic cream, but he was using it too much, therefore it slowed he healing process.

If his foreskin was normal, I would never have consider getting it done, as I feel its unnecessary.

Answer 6

I live in the UK and remember, many years ago, my younger brother having this operation. I'm guessing he was around 7 or 8 at the time.

The main thing I remember is him crying when his dressings were changed.......... but he had lots of baths, which seemed to help him. And I'm also sure my parents gave him plenty of pain relief as well.

He's now a man of 38 years, and it hasn't caused him any anxiety or trouble......... and certainly hasn't stopped him having relationships or hindered his love life!!!

He does seemed addicted to spending lots of time in the bath though............... but who knows if that's anything to do with this (think he just likes falling asleep!!)

The reason for his op was advice given my medical people, so obviously my parents took their advice. My other brother is 'intact' as it were, so there was no pressure to have it done to him.

You don't say why you took the decision to do it, but it is done now - so stop feeling guilty about it.

Don't listen to the others who say that you have abused him or taken away his right to choice.

It will not affect his sexual abilities in any way.

As a parent you made a choice, I'm assuming, because you thought it was the right thing to do. So take heart that you are a parent that cares, which is a good thing to be.

Look after him while he's recovering, and I'm sure he won't blame you in any way.

Answer 7

my son was 4 when he had his operation. He was very poorly for about 10 days and wore loose clothing for about 4 weeks. He did get an infection so watch your son very closely. It is very painful so make sure you give him plenty of pain relief. My son didnt eat much and wouldnt go in the bath. Shower much better. Hope he's much better soon. Still get doubts today whether I did the right thing and he's 16 next week.

Answer 8

I dont have anything to say if its part of your sustom or something. But if not, i think you did a terrible thing by torturing him like that. I think he should be the one to choose whther or not to do something to the organ that means so much in his entire life.

I am not circumcised and neither do i intend to. What about your son? does he have a choice now?

Answer 9

Don't let any of these ignorant fools that answered disrespectfully by trying to make you feel bad get to you. You made the right choice. Being that I was circumcised at birth, I do not remember any of the procedure or the pain as is the case with most boys that have the procedure done at an early age. My 8 year old does not remember anything to this day and thought that is the way he was born. I explained it to him as best as i could to an 8 year old and he was fine with it.

In other countries, boys are circumcised when they get into their teen years. Talk about torture. But that is their custom. I would have it no other way. If I do have any more boys, all of them will be circumcised. It IS the right thing to do.

Answer 10

You mutilated your child - you should feel terrible. Why hurt an innocent child? Just to make yourself feel better? You've deprived him of a natural part of his body which in adult life would have given him increased sexual pleasure. The American Association of Pediatrics advises against routine circumcision - did you bother to do any research before you did this? Well, it's too late now. What you've done cannot be fixed.