Married couples splitting bills...elaboration.?

Question

My wife and I both work and make about the same each month. At the end of the month she always complains about having to pay half of the bills(rent, utilities, cable). She has two girls from a previous marriage who live with us also. I also pay her health insurance and buy most of the groceries. Am I being unfair asking for half?

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Ok....All I am asking is to split the things we both use. Rent, water, electric, cable and phone...that's it. I help a lot with the girls getting them things they need and want. Her insurance is taken out of my paycheck.
For the people who say it's stupid to split, why? Why should one person have to pay more when it is equal usage? And isn't having a joint account for bills the same as splitting? You both put the same amount in each check, right?
Believe me, if I could afford to pay for everything, I would. I want to do everything I can for her.

Answer 1

For a married couple, you sure have a lot of "mine" and "yours" going on.

My husband and I have been married 20 years. OUR money is OUR money and goes into one account. That account pays all the bills, expenses and everything else we pay for.

I think separate accounts and halfing up this and that puts a separation of the couple into the marriage. I wouldn't allow it to continue.

Answer 2

Well, you both should have talk to each other about the bills before marriage. Now the best way is to have a joint account n both of you monthly contribute the same amount to that account to pay those bills. there is nothing fair in this world. One party has to give n take most of the time. sometime as a man of the family, one cannot be calculative..Women are very sensitive to men who counts every single cents even it women's hard earn money.

Answer 3

well yea now days if one can't make it alone, the help of the other spouse is needed. I dont pay bills but my husband does, i just put my money in the same account as his and we go from there, he doesn't complain, because i buy all the groceries and stuff that we need. I dont make as much money as him that may be why, but yea now days each needs to put half and half . Or u 2 can make a budget with both checks and go from there. No it is not unfair, u seem loving and responsible, if u cant afford it on ur own she needs to help u

Answer 4

Your story sounds like roommates with benefit. When you are married, there should not be percentage shared for anything. When you are married, you and your wife become one. Don't you have a joint checking account to pay for your bills? You are wrong to tell your wife to pay half of rent/mortgage and utility bills. If you both are working, there shouldn't be your money and my money. Men support their wives and if men can't women support their husbands.
You are married, you should not mark thing yours and mind.

Answer 5

You are not being unfair, but with the kids' expenses, your wife may not be able to afford to pay for half the bills... you two need to sit down with your receipts and figure out your monthly expenses and how you can meet them together.

Answer 6

Forget what some of these folks are saying...I think you are absolutely right to expect her to pay half. We are not talking about a woman that isnt working. She is not a stay at home mom and she should expect to be an equal within the house and she should expect to do equal. Its not like you may 3 times more than she does. She pays or she needs to go!

Answer 7

Marraige is a 50/50 relationship, I agree with you that everything should be split. I've been supporting myself and my three children on my own for 7 years, now I found someone to share that responsibility with me. I'm lovin it!

Answer 8

Ummm... Why dont you have a joint acct? That way it doesnt matter who pays for half. You both have the money. It becomes "BOTH" of your moneys. Its better that way.

Answer 9

No its not unfair.