Met a guy and had an instant extreme dislike.
Everything about him just annoyed the *&)*) out of me -- think about an underskin itch that can't be scratch or won't go away.
I also went out of my way to let him know that I despised him with passion. -- I couldn't help it because I always felt an intense anger around him.
But then our eyes met for the first time....lo and behold...I felt like I was finally at home ...so safe and secured, and had a feeling of a lock and a key (strange I know)...
The thing is I don't know this guy -- he's just some stranger who turned my life upside down.
And NO...we're not dating, but I noticed that he noticed me too considering I was very rude to him.
Can you explain why I felt an instant anger/dislike before the eye contact accident?
2007-03-28 04:52:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's a strange phenomenon that is actually contradictory to the love at first sight scenario. There are some studies (I could look them up, but it would take alot of time) that demonstrate that people are often attracted to conflict in potential mates; the opposites attract theory. Basically, you identify, conciously or not, that there are traits possessed by this person that are in conflict with your own. While outwardly you feel annoyed and put off by these things, internally you are attracted to the differences or the originallity in his personallity. It happened to me.
My senior year in high school, this girl transferred in from out of state. All of my guy friends were head over heals for her, but I couldn't stand her; everything about her drove me absolutely insane. Long story short, we fell in love (over a long period of time), and had a strong relationship for two years. despite the fact that I felt instant hostility towards her the first time we met.
There are all sorts of attraction studies performed in the psychological community. for more info go to www.apa.org. and ask Mr. annoying out for a drink, you might find a good two year thing.
2007-03-28 05:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by biokid02 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows? Maybe you experienced some sort of "love at first sight" phenomenon. If you do figured it out, let me know because I have the same problem. I must project some kind of hatred aura that makes certain people just hate the living Christ out of me before ever engaging in a conversation. This is the case for guys and girls alike. I'm not a mean person, and while I'm no Brad Pitt, I'd like to think that I'm a decent looking guy. The fact remains however that some people just f()cking hate me and I cannot figure it out. I've always hoped that there was some way to turn it off, but it just never goes away. Maybe some people are just hardwired that way. Either way, being doomed to a lonely life isnt the worst thing in the world, at least I know that I'll never have to get married.
-J.
2007-03-28 12:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The instant dislike is most likely based on some past incident. Could be someone he reminded you of that hurt you or that your parents said, "Stay away from people who..." or any number of things.
But when you looked in his eyes, you realized he was NOT this person who had hurt you or the type of "bad" person your parents warned you about.
His eyes likely reminded you of someone who had been very nice to you in the past.
This stuff becomes instinctual, so the roots are hard to find.
2007-03-28 12:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have that ability as well. I can walk into a room
full of strangers and will instantly take an intense disliking to someone who has never done any-
thing to me. I contribute this ability to being psychic. That person gave off some vibes you do not
care for and you were REACTING to those vibes. As for the eye contact thing, apparently you like those kind of eyes and RESPONDED to them.
2007-03-28 12:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could of just been turned off by his outter appearance or because of a past anger with a relationship and that might still be making you angry
2007-03-28 11:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by manimose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that the reason why you had these feelings before you seen him was because you had given up on finding a guy and you despised them for it and so you didn't give a care about any other guy, you have prob had bad experiences with guys so you hated every guy.....but let me tell you, when you find the right guy you will know..so if you think this guy is him, don't let him go!
2007-03-28 12:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by sins_deadly_revenge 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have Borderline Personality Disorder (it may have a new name now).
Seriously. At least you have the insight to see that your emotional reactions may be skewed.
Get tested.
2007-03-28 12:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I belive in love at first. Sleep with him it will make you feel a lot better..............LOL
Good Luck Girl..........................
PS make sure you keep it safe(condums)
2007-03-28 12:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by ladyindia2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋