2007-03-28 04:33:19 · 32 answers · asked by bvlgari 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course it's wrong!
2007-03-28 04:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Well, when you put it that way, ummm, yes.
First, you have to tell us why you willingly made a bad decision to ruin someone else's life - I mean, who marries someone without at least trying to convince that person that you love them?
I think you had to do that and now, for whatever reason, you have 'cold feet.'
Why don't you try to figure out what scares you about marriage - there are plenty of reasons you can give for not getting married but never mention that one. Is it that you just realized you are going to have to be faithful to one person and assume a lot of responsibility? It doesn't matter if you are the bride or the groom - you are going to have to become a responsible person.
So you say you're confused and ask the question 'Is It Wrong?' As if anyone is going to tell you, No, it's not wrong to marry someone you don't love.
Stop and think about what you are avoiding. Will you ever be able to enter into a committed relationship? There are people who are so terrified of that that it will never happen.
Bottom line: need more information. But of course it's wrong - I just don't think that is a reason that suddenly came to you. I think there's a lot more to the story.
2007-03-28 04:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right and wrong in a relationship. People get married for all sorts of reasons. The point is now, since you did marry the person, you have two options. Make it work, by falling in love with that person, giving them the respect that they deserve and should automatically receive from their spouse, or get a divorce.
2007-03-28 04:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ver wrong...don't worry, it will catch up to you. Things like this never end nicely. However, some people actually do give this "marriage of convenience" type a chance and some work out. Hopefully, you atleast have a ot of respect for this person and can learn to love them. Otherwise, you might wnat to start looking for a way out now!
2007-03-28 04:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much about wrong as it is about a decision you made that was not a good one.
Basically you made a commitment to this person and don't have the feelings that maybe you thought you had.
I think if you go see someone about it, that might get you some perspective on things.
2007-03-28 04:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by dmh7593 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! yes! if you marry someone, you're making a lifetime commitment to them and if you don't love them, the lifetime commitment surely wont last. instead of planning this wedding, you should be out there trying to find your true love if its not your fiancee. But then comes the issue on how long you've known them, if calling off the wedding will ruin your relationship, how long you've been engaged and all that. But my question to you is if you never did love them why did you say yes?
2007-03-28 04:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by E* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not fair to you or to her. Work on it. Don't waste her time or your time. Do you really want her or you to be saying 40 years down the road that you never loved each other. You both deserve more than that. Why didn't you think about this before you got married?
2007-03-28 04:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by natsuko1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life, and I can't say what is right or wrong for you, there have been loveless marriages that have worked out in the past, but it is so much harder and also unfair on your partner, they deserve to be loved and to love, if you don't love them they are missing out on the chance of knowing what that feels like, and so are you.
2007-03-28 04:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not a good idea...
Why get married if you don't love him ?
30 is not so old that you need to do this ?
Sandra Bulock did not marry until she was 40.
Is he a wealthy older man ?
If so, then fine, but get a good Pre-Nup...
2007-03-28 04:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello?! of course it is for you and the other person. Not only are you torturing yourself but also hurting the other person. You will eventually began having problems with each other because you will be annoy or the other will of the things that you do or don't do.
2007-03-28 04:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong. Why did you agree to marry someone you don't love? Is it desperation? Is it loneliness? You need to call it off and rethink what it is you want and why you don't love him. Don't waste his time. Give him a chance to find happiness with someone else if you don't want him.
2007-03-28 04:37:01 · answer #11 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋