She lied to me, cheated and wants me back. I broke up with her and that was that. She said she needs a second chance but I dont trust her. I made up my mind, but what do you think? Am i right to drop it or should i give her a chance?
My rule is once a cheater will always be a cheater.
2007-03-28 04:14:49 · 23 answers · asked by Americana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Trust me, you've done the right thing. If she cheated on you, its for a reason. And that reason will come back, if you give her a second chance. I've been cheated on, and begged back, and so I gave "a second chance" aaaaand a third chance aaaaand a fourth. Trust me, it will only happen again, and then you'll be kicking yourself.
2007-03-28 04:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by MLRatyahoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once trust is broken it is almost impossible to get back. Why I said almost, it that I had a x husband that cheated we were only married a year when I caught him. (he was not very cleaver easy to catch) anyway we separated and a few months later he wanted me back. Even though we were married I could not get past the vows he broke. I agree with you and your decision. How do you know they won't chest again. The real answer is you don't. I guess it depends on how much you love this girl and if you can trust her again. You need to do some self examination and see if you can total forgive and learn to trust her again. Ask your self is it worth it? As for me what helped me make a final decision is what do you do if you are home and it is late and you don't know where she is do you stay awake and worry or can you go to sleep without a concern because you trust her?
2007-03-28 04:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point isn't "once a cheater, always a cheater". The point is that you don't trust her and you've made up your mind.
If she wants that trust back, she NEEDS to earn it. And no, she does not NEED nor deserve a second chance, as you are under no obligation to grant anything.
I commend you for keeping to your principles and standing up for yourself. I don't believe that "once a cheater, always a cheater"; people can change if they want to. But you were right to drop someone that you don't trust anymore (whatever the reason).
2007-03-28 04:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre right once a cheater always a cheater. dont give a another chance cause she is going to think that if u take her back she will do it again and that u will probably take her back.
2007-03-28 04:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a crappy rule. People have lapses in judgment, it's called being human. It happens. You like dating humans, right? Okay.
Chances are, you're mind is made up no matter what, and good for you, it shows conviction, something most people don't have. Don't feel guilty about what others have to say about it either, they are aren't you.
If she wants you to trust her, she has to earn it. She probably won't because it's "unfair." It's more than fair. She has to understand what it is going to take to earn your trust (again). I wouldn't take her back anytime soon, tell her what you think, and see if it can work out. Worse comes to worse, you won't have some bitter ex tailing you.
2007-03-28 04:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by matthias_coleman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater! Think twice then think again before you set yourself up to be cheated on again. Inevitably it will happen.
2007-03-28 04:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by biggirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation but if you say you don't trust her anymore there's a good chance you never will. So cut your losses and hopefully you can both move on the new relationships so she can cheat on someone else.
2007-03-28 04:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feeling. If you go ahead with a relationship with her and you don't trust her, it will end bitterly. Tell her you at least need some time to get over the pain she caused you. Maybe in the future you can both grow past the infidelity.
2007-03-28 04:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Informed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust her than don't waste your time. You will always be thinking in the back of your head what she could be doing when you are not around. Don't worry yourself with it and find someone that won't do that kind of stuff to you.
2007-03-28 04:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good rule.....trust your gut. Sounds like your gut is telling you not to give her a second chance.
2007-03-28 04:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋